I dont even know how long its been I think a month

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
I dont even know how long its been I think a month
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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 7:35pm

Hi Everyone,

I thought Id pop in.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009

Great news, honey. You are on your way. Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. A month is HUGE! :smileyhappy:

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010

Hi Jeni,

So happy that all is going well for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010

jen,

I am so happy for you!!! I am where you are as well and it feels great!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010

That's awesome Jen, you are doing amazingly!

Affairs have an expiration, so this was the expiry date for you, luckily for you it didn't end in mayhem, like some of the stories i have read here. It is great that he has respected your wish/logic to end it all, mine hasn't and i feel like he is putting me at risk with getting caught by my H, the plus side is it is making me despise him for his disrespect and utter selfishness, so if your exAP has not contacted you it means that he was decent enough to respect your life and his.

Feel wonderful that you have given yourself the gift of NC. You are free, the shackles are off, you can now look forward to a life of substance. It feels wonderful to now be in a state-of-mind not determined by texts/calls/emails etc. doesn't it Jen? I know i did, i feel pathetic when i think about it.

Many of us will think of our exAPs, however feeling that sense of freedom outweighs any form of 'missing' that we may feel, the factuality of it is, we don't miss our exAPs, we miss the fantasy.

Proud of us newbies, soldier on as you have been hun.

V888

xxxxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008

I felt really good until today.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Everyone I want to thank you for your posts you have no idea how much they mean to me especially today. :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Sat, 12-18-2010 - 10:07pm
Oh Jen, I hear you, as a newbie myself i feel that i am not giving as much as i'm getting from this board, but i think everyone understands how hard it is for us in the beginning. I post on my good days, when i am feeling empowered, and i read all the other days when i am not feeling the greatest.

((((Hugs))))