I ended it Saturday and it was ugly

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Registered: 11-16-2009
I ended it Saturday and it was ugly
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Wed, 10-06-2010 - 9:23pm

Hi Everyone,

I worte my SG an email on Saturday asking him not to contact me anymore due to his not accepting me the way I am, not respecting my views even though I respect his and the fact that I am here in town and he had not put any effort into seeing me was pretty clear he was no longer interested.

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Thu, 10-07-2010 - 9:44am

Nolove,

Welcome to the board - I'm just catching up, so I'm sorry not to have posted sooner - I'm Lolly, a fairly newbie (2 months in - original board name was Lellibee) - in the midst of a D from STBX and going throught he end of my A to xAP (old high school flame reconnected via FB) with 3 kids in tow and all the regular real-life stressors.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 10-08-2010 - 10:35am
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 10-08-2010 - 1:30pm

Love4me,

I really liked reading how you have already realized that you miss the AP who never really existed and not the actual AP who does.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 10-08-2010 - 10:15pm

Love4you,

Welcome to EAS and to the beginning of a life lead with dignity. Like Dee said, it's great to see you already able to differentiate the fantasy AP from the reality AP. This is a huge relatization and one that will serve you well as you move forward. I remember thinking, when he told me he was leaving W, that i wasn't so sure I wanted him now that it was becoming a reality. Really, what was I getting: a substance using, lying cheating coward. Not a prize. Nor was I a prize for him to win. Nope - two very lost and damaged people taking the easy way outta our real life problems.

Congrat's on finding the courage to face reality ... and again, welcome (-:

TU.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 2:42am

Hey Love

I think you are spot on when you say we miss the AP we fantasised about- not the AP they actually were! I keep saying that all the time in my head- 'he wasnt the man I invented him to be'!

Iggyx

You are what you consistently do