I failed myself and you

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2009
I failed myself and you
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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 3:53pm

I haven’t been on here since before Christmas and there are so many new names I don’t recognize anyone.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 5:52pm

Hi New,


I am pretty new to EAS so I hope I can be of at least a little help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2009
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 6:26pm

Hey, new~


Ah, sweet validation....recurring theme among us smart, successful, confident women here on EAS....


Please be strong. I know (we ALL know) it's hard, but you WILL start to feel better. I'm about as long out as you are (50 days or so?)...it is getting better for me, but I still have bad days and still miss him.


But,

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 7:18pm

Hi NS,


Welcome back. I wish it was under better circumstances but it sounds like you get the picture that NC only works if you work it (borrowed words from a wise poster).


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 9:05pm

NS,


When I caved and went back to purgatory for the 3rd time, I didn't even know this board existed. I never would have imagined back in 2001 that there would be a woman's forum for ending an affair. Actually, I don't think there was...but regardless; you have at your fingertips resources that can help you get through to the other side, so please do not make the mistake again of thinking 50 days NC comes with a guarantee. Even when I was 6 months out, I still read here faithfully and continued doing so for the next two years. I became a permanent fixture around here and then decided it was time to take a hiatus. Again I returned just last August when Xmm mistook my concern about his health in only a way a MM would, who believed that once an OW, always an OW, so why not plant a kiss on her and see if she'll play again.

   ~Iddy~ 


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 10:29pm

Free :)


I'm hoping you don't mind my using you as an example...a good example, and and example that will validate


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2009
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 7:22am

Hi, Clarity-

Yes, I have been at a point where I was like, Who am I to offer anyone advice when I can't hold on to my emotions...I felt like a flake. But, someone said, "Post what you feel at the moment" and that made a lot of sense. I assumed it would be a cut and dried healing, meaning once I started feeling better, it would just keep going in that direction...imagine my surprise...:o)

That being said, I'm feeling good most of the time now and that feels soooo good. And yes, the 13th was a bad day for me for some reason, but I posted here and went to lunch and by the time I had read some responses, the urge to break nc had COMPLETELY passed and since then, I have felt strong.

I certainly hope I can help others...heaven knows sooo many have helped me. I thought I was a lost cause a few weeks ago, but I'm still kickin' and doing better every day. As a result, I hope to help others with my "btdt" stories the way you guys have helped me with your btdt. Thank you for your comments!!

((HUGS))
Free

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 11:07am

You ladies are so incredibly awesome!!!...I really mean that TOO!..Thank you so much for the uplifting love, support and encouragement.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3