I feel very sad this morning!

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I feel very sad this morning!
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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 1:28pm
I've been coming to this board for about 8 months now. I have made some great friends! I've watched so many bleed and suffer unbearable pain. Yes, it was originally by our own choice! I've had so much pain and grief due to my affair that I can't imagine anything worse besides the loss of my daughter!

But, damn-it I am so sick of the arguments that go on here! For those of you still immersed in the pain it will get better! For me the tears in my eyes right now are because of the arguing! Cl Chris? Maybe you can e-mail me when it's all over! Till then I'm going to find something to do that doesn't hurt my heart and bring tears to my eyes!

Happy Easter to all of you!!!

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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 1:58pm
Sweeterblond, you truly are a good friend and whether or not I continue to post here has nothing to do with our friendship or it continuing. I hope you know that. You truly are a sweet blonde! I have enjoyed our conversations on the phone and know that if we ever make it to each other's side of the country, we will get together.

You have a lot of insight to share here and I hope you will continue. As for our discussion yesterday, I will say this to you. Usually when I sell, I only have a need to ask for the sale twice, rarely three times. If there ever is a third, I suppose I will try but I should also tell you this. Three strikes at the ballgame and a person is out! For me and it has taken a very long time to get this, I have to surround myself with positive people who genuinely care and don't turn their back because they may hear something that they don't like or that makes them feel uncomfortable. I will always feel that a true friend will always tell you the truth, no matter how much it hurts and be there to love you and pick you right back up when you fall and/or accept what's been said; knowing without a doubt that as a friend, you have my best interest at heart. That my dear friend, you will always get from me.

So dry those eyes and have a nice Easter holiday with your sweet family. I intend to do the same.

Love to you.

GT

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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 3:21pm
Sweetblonde, you know I love you. I didn't try to do a personal attack here. I thought very hard about you before I posted. I simply am tired of the married vs single wars. It doesnt come down to one poster. There are a few that separate and we are all suppose to be here as one and there is a definite separation here. I was trying to let people see all sides here. That is all. I sometimes feel get so deep into their own pain that they don't think about the hurt of others. Some hurt in different ways, but they do hurt here. I am going to keep my promise to not respond negativily to posters. I started a new post to state my views like others have here. I didn't point out names but this has been a topic that has been brewing since I have been on this board and it seems to be getting worse. I am NOT going to put you in the middle of this. You have nothing but good intentions here. I know that more than anyone here. I hope you will understand where I am coming from. Believe me, I just want the bickering to stop with this topic. That is my motive here. These posts go round and round about this subject. YOu know that. I wasn't showing anger in my post by no means. I just want everyone to understand that each of us are going through different pain here. We shouldn't be pointing fingers here. We all know we are at fault. I will be responding to your emails tomorrow in depth with you. I don' want you to be sad. I just want the separation here to end. I don't look at that as being negative. I have said what I had to say in that post and I will not bicker with anyone about it. I had already had my mind made up to not react to any of the posts in a negative manner. I am not starting a war..just trying to end one.

I love you!!!

Casey

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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 6:00pm
Casey, you really need to go back to the GT, ABOUT YOUR POST and look up the very last line of what you said to me. Sorry, but you did try to bait me and I simply didn't fall for it. I answered you with kindness and that is what should be done. I know for an absolute fact that I don't belong on this board anymore which will probably make you really happy. If it does, you should question yourself because when you first came here, I did everything I could to not only support you but also advise you so you could really begin to heal. The truth is I got frustrated because you would get ticked about what someone wrote to you and leave only to come back after having seen your MM again. And we didn't stop caring about you. So I finally decided that the only way to get through to you and hopefully snap you into seeing things differently was to bring up a subject that would grab you. That is exactly what I did. And although the timing of it could've been better because of the incident you were involved in with your car, there was no way I would've changed my approach. And I hear you ARE doing better. Isn't that what counts? You finally made a choice to stop all the endless talk of this MM and do something different. I said it yesterday and I'll say it again today. I am so very glad you are really moving forward with your life for what that's worth.

Sweetblonde, I want you to know I truly appreciate all your efforts.

Sincerely,

GT

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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 7:09pm
I made a promise to Sweetblonde around 1:00 this morning. That post took place before that. I am keeping my promise to her now.

Sincerely,

Casey

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Sun, 04-20-2003 - 1:13pm
SB...

You reached out to me in kindness when I arrived at this board in so much pain. I hate this arguing and it's NOT why I came here. I never knew how far off track things could get here, and it makes me sad too. I feel like a broken record repeating myself again and again, but we all have a lot to offer each other... this is about a common pain we've been through... In reading here, it seems that perhaps there was a history of "single vs. married" that I did not know about, and that saddens me too... Don't we have enough to deal with in trying to heal?

Let's get back to supporting each other... you are so right - this arguing is only hurtful. There is a huge need for support, challenging each other towards growth, and helping us to move forward... I see no need for, and get nothing but sadness and frustration from all this arguing over tiny differences in our situations...

Hugs

Glinda