I HAVE LOST ALL CONTROL !!

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Registered: 04-17-2003
I HAVE LOST ALL CONTROL !!
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 10:04am
I hope some of you are familar with my story . I posted a few days ago about

how I contacted OM via E-mail, 2 text messages and a VM on his cell phone all within

3 days . He has not responded now I am mad !

We work at the same place don't see each other that often . We work in the field as auditors so, are not always on the same job . I think we are working together on Sunday . Although it will be difficult to get him alone e work in a large group .

I want to confront him . Knowing me I will confront him .

What do I say ??????? I have a few things in mind . I feel like I have no choice . He just left with no explanation ...

overwhelmed ...........I am really looking for a good friend too . anyone in NJ

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:03am
well,i'm in ny...but not really a good friend to anyone according to exom
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:30am
My best advice to you would be first to make sure you are calm if you are able to get him alone. Then tell him that you just want to know why he left. All you are looking for is an explanation. If he sees that you are calm and not wanting a huge dicussion and fight over it, maybe he will explain it to you. I understand your anger, believe me I do. But that anger won't help you seek your answers, it will only hinder it. Good luck!
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:29pm
Thanx good advice . I will try and stay calm Im get very emotional .

There was a time I talked to him at work and felt so badly I just

walked off the job . I feel like calling - texting him right this second

Anon- I am sure you are a wonderful friend . Where about's do you live in NY ?

I live in Passaic County ( North Jersey )

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Registered: 05-28-2004
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 2:57pm
I know the feeling of "lost all control"-long distance relationship.. We will email back and forth all day, days at a time and then he'll just stop...nothing..I have to fight the urge to call, email, etc. to say "what's going on" "what happened", etc. I have spend days in front of the computer, turning up the volume, just to hear that email coming in..but sometimes it doesn't and then I just shut down. I hate that in me..that I have allowed myself to become so trapped....about the time that I have resolved it within me and gotten the "what the hell" attitude toward him, he'll call or email and the whole vicious cycle starts over...help me too...
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 9:12pm
I am feeling that way too! I live in essex county. Email me if you want!

Bria

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 1:29am
I tried to email you, its not set up on your profile. I too have alot anger at XMM and am having trouble dealing with it. I am in NJ. Email me..my link is on my profile if you like.

Hope

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:23pm
Oh, boy! You women are speaking to me! (this is my first post here...actually it's my second...(last time was about 8 months ago when I thought I'd really ended a draining affair).

Today I sat around in my pjs until about 1PM thinking how I need to meet more people -- men and women. I live in Bergen County near the city of Passaic. Needless to say, most friends don't really understand. I might be game if you all are getting together or anything.

I'm finally (I think after umpteen attempts over a few years) out of a 6-year relationship w/a MM. I think it's different this time, though, the creep actually underwent hypnosis to try to suppress his attraction to me rather than get some b*lls to do something about it. (Yes, hypnosis. I'm just so incredible. Ha! Wondering if that's what I need to do to REALLY let go.)