I have a question
Find a Conversation
I have a question
| Sun, 08-01-2004 - 7:52pm |
This is my question: How is it that in a 17 year marriage, She (Wife) would have no idea that her husband had cheated on her five times and with me being the sixth time ending in pregnancy? Doesn't a woman know these things? Also I understand not to "tell him off," cause it will be a waste of time(read what you said free and posie) Yet I wonder if speaking to her in an informative way would benefit her. I know she is innocent as was I until I found out he was married,(I noticed that he said he was going away for christmas and I asked where to)that was when he told me he was married, he never wore a ring which ofcourse I now know is not a great indidcator to know if a man is married or not:-P(my mistake was to continue on with him) ANYhow so my questions are how could she not know being in a 17 year marriage? and if speaking to her of what he told me would be informative to her?
sincerely,
RO.

Pages
You know what, I believe your xMM's wife knew and knows about her husbands affairs and extra curricular activities. I think, a woman is not stupid enough to not know that. Now if your question is why she then stayed for 17 years with him? I would say, women are different. She might have reasons why she wants to stay even if she knew about it. Ive met a lot of women who after knowing their husbands affairs would still opt to stay. There are a lot of reasons why a wife would do that especially if they have kids.
One thing ive learned from my A is how to mind your own business. By that, im saying, think for yourself, live for yourself, heal yourself, and make your life happy whatever had happened in your life. You've made a mistake and accept that. By telling your xMM's wife about you is not a good move. You're only making another mistake in that way. Even if your purpose is just to warn her, it still shouldnt come from you.
Move on girl. I know it's hard and it hurts but look at the bright side. Im sure things will be better if you hope it to be.
Sweetie
I then told his mistress about the other 2 women he had been seeing along with her. Now who was shocked?
Don't think she doesn't know....she knows....she knows more than you do, I bet.
She most likely new but decided not to know, denial tell it wa shoved in here face.
The fact that she has kicked him to the curb and has filed for divorce says she knows all she needs to know.
The best thing both you and his wife can do is soak him for every dime you can get and move on with your lives.
Your young and this is nothing but a bump in your road of life, for him it is a major ditch and he just got slammed into it.
When he starts paying out big $$$$$, the smile will come off his face.
Free
I know you are angry, hurt, and feel that an enormous injustice has been done to you, hon. BUT Free's right, if you want to hurt this arsehole, whack him right in the wallet.
You are talking about someone who has no feelings for anyone but himself, for whom the normal rules of decency do not apply. His wallet however will feel the pain, and he can me forced to be decent at least financially to the child he fathered.
By hurting his wife, you accomplish nothing. By sticking him for every dime you can squeeze out of him, you make his life a misery. Now which end result is preferable?
Exactly. Get legal advice, and get it now.
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
Sincerely,
RO
I did not know you got an STD from this jerk, I have to change my vote at least in part, YOU SHOULD IN A BRIEF MESSAGE LET HER KNOW THAT HE IS CONTAGOUS, just in case she considers attempting to rebuild with him.
This would be for the sole purpose of protecting HER from anymore harm.
Free
Sincerely,
RO
Stay away!
No contact is no contact.
It really isn't your business anymore, is it?
Stay away and don't fan any flames. Just make sure you take care of yourself and your child. In my opinion you will continue scratching at a wound with no satisfaction if you contact her.
~Love
Pages