I hope he calls!!

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Registered: 11-11-2004
I hope he calls!!
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Fri, 06-24-2005 - 12:28pm
Well, mm called me yesterday to tell me that he got a letter at his w's work addressed to her telling her that he was cheating on her. (read the post, "1 week" to get the history of the woman that sent the letter). He said he called me to warn me to keep a look out in case I get a letter at my house. I kept the conversation as much away from the subject of us as possible. I didn't say anything to him at the time because I didn't want him to think I was interested but today I must be feeling frisky....I can't wait until he calls because I have some interesting questions to ask him. According to his call yesterday, he didn't deny to his w the letter was true but didn't affirm it either. He said that he just told her she can believe what she wants. (Of course this is coming from him).....anyway, there was several times that he told me he hopes she finds out so that she will leave him and that he didn't care if someone saw us kissing because he wanted the world to know he loves me and wants to be with me the rest of my life. Well, you know, it's funny because he had his chance.....she was asking him if he was in love with someone else.....Here was his chance, but guess what?? He is chicken sh*t and didn't say anything. He just didn't talk to her about it. I can't wait to get his answers on this.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 9:19pm

Why bother do you need fertilizer for your garden?

A bunch of BS is all your going to get why waste your time.

NO CONTACT is the way to go IF you really want to end this thing.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 5:28pm

You hope your xMM calls? I hope you find a way to see that your continued response to xMM are similar to a fish biting on bait on a hook thrown in the water.


I thought you wanted the drama out of your life once and for all. Or did I misread your prior posts?


No contact and no response and no NOTHING for a long time will get you the emotional space you need to escape your affair addiction. Or is it drama addiction?


You're worth more than part time crumbs from a slacker who can't stand up for what he wants in his life. So why should YOU be HIS backbone?


cl-nre

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 8:39am

Hey free and cl-nre,
You both are right. What difference does it make? Do I really think he is going to fess up and say, "You're right, I never planned on leaving her, I was just stringing you along because you were good in the sack..." No, he is not going to say something like that, I am never going to get the truth and who cares? I KNOW the truth, or at least the truth according to me. He loves me, I know that....but not enough. And maybe not even real love. Let me restate that, I know he THINKS he loves me.....I am not sure if he even knows real love. I had a hard time believing that one person could love the other so much and it not be real love. I mean, since I was able to love him so much, then he must love me. I have learned that love doesn't work that way. It can be one-sided. I left him a vmail on Friday saying that I needed to talk to him, please call me.....He never called. Him not calling said more to me that his cheap words ever could have. If his w left him a vmail saying that she needed him, he would have called her immediately......but he doesn't think enough of me to even be considerate.....He may love me, but if that is love then I don't want it......I am very glad now that he didn't call. Thanks for your posts!

Apparently Stupid who is getting smarter...little by little

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Registered: 04-05-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:36am
It's great that he didn't tell his wiife about being in love with you. If he divorces her, that in love thing costs money.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 12:26pm

I don't like that reason. I heard it from exMM. Property settlement has nothing to do with fault. I believe in honesty. If you are going to be with someone else, you don't have to rub your spouse's face in it but I think you ow them the truth so they can grieve and start to move on themselves. When I got divorced, I told my exH I was in love with someone else when I left. The divorce was ugly becasue he fought it and I did give more than 50% of the assets but I did it to get him to sign. Giving more than 50% was my choice. When you want out of something bad enough, you don't care about money. So I hate that reason - its bogus.

Ivy

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 12:28pm
I don't want to be with someone that thinks more of money or his assets than me....That was not his reason, but if it was, I would be out of there.