I just did something so IDIOTIC

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Registered: 10-04-2009
I just did something so IDIOTIC
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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 3:37pm

So I just post that note about missing the sex, log off of iVillage, thinking "got it out of my system now" and what do I do??? I GOOGLE xAP.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 3:52pm

Hey, nothing is wrong with you. I have the same problem as you with home sex life (lack thereof) and miss amazing sex too. It's hard when you have nothing to come back to.

Not much of an advice here...just ((hugs)). And stay away from the FB, you just don't want to know what's going on in his life, so don't torture yourself.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 4:39pm

Gal,


Just breathe. Just accept that you're having longings today for whatever reason. Know it will pass. There is nothing wrong with you. You are simply a human being, vulnerable and emotional right now. Kick, scream, cry, howl....whatever you need to do to let these painful emotions escape. Then just breathe and go read

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 10-21-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 4:42pm

Hey alwayst2 (did you change yor name? I thought it was alwayst). Would you mind if I email you? Our marriages are so similar;)

XOXO
Gone

edited: Sorry for off




Edited 4/6/2010 4:43 pm ET by gonebabygone
**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 4:45pm

Oh Gal- BTDT... and it always made me sick. This stems back to that addiction. You were feeling the need for the high... and you went looking for some sort of connection to it. What you learned is that it wasn't worth it. It made you feel worse. It's an icky lesson to learn... one that I have to learn over and over again. With time, I think the urge to "check in" on him or feel connected to him will wane.... at least I hope :)

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 4:47pm

((GBG))


Yes, I changed it because the other was linked to an unsecured email account. I couldn't change my email without creating a whole new account with ivillage, so that's what I did.


By all means, feel free to email. We do have a lot in common with our Ms.


~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 10-25-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:05pm

Damn, I am sorry, but you guys are just keepin' it real.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:55pm

I haven't done FB peeking, drive bys or any of that either. We are in LC so x thinks it's ok to check on me every once in a while - I keep it cordial as he is my boss - but today he called me and asked me out. I was so stunned that didn't even know what to respond (I ended it 2 months ago and we barely talked since then). I guess my silence was so crushing, so he hanged up on me. I am still laughing...I should be the one hanging up on him...so as much as I miss the sex, I don't miss the jerk who was providing it:)

So you ladies don't forget to look at the bright side of things...:)

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 10-04-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 9:29pm

Thanks for all of the support, ladies. I actually expected a harsher response, so I appreciate the kindness.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 8:43am

Hey Gal-

KMG hit it right on the head when she said, "NC is really an incredible gift if you give it an honest chance to work its magic."

I learned this the hard way the past few weeks when I had to be LC due to work. I had become so strong and resolved during NC, but LC knocked me back a few notches... not back to square one, but a couple days it felt like that.

And you have it so right- NC=No New Hurts... it's a mantra I repeat over and over to myself on a daily basis. There's no use peeking into the past.

Hope you are feeling better today.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 10-04-2009
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:20am

Thanks, Jane.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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