I just don't get it....
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I just don't get it....
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:53am |
I have made myself clear to XMM that he is no longer going to "have" me and that I am not into this "thing" we had anymore. Especially after he tells me how much he is where he needs to be, in his little world. Yet he still calls me....Saying I want to see you, I miss you, asking what I've been doing etc. Like he really cares!!!
I guess I'm just gonna have to start saying things to him to make him think I will call his house, tell his wife, etc. I by no means wanted to resort to this, but I really think in his mind that we still have something together.
Why do guys do this? Part of me thinks it's his insecurities. If I was really that someone special to him, he would have made this a real & honest relationship a long time ago.
Needed to Vent!!!!
Thanks
TCOM

I think he's playing a very manipulative game with you. Maybe in some twisted way, he enjoys the rollercoaster -- "catch me if you can" type thing. It is immature and really selfish of him.
My xMM pursued me after I ended our A - the last time (over 5 mos. after I ended it) he showed up was at my home late at night (my exH was on the way with my children). I walked down the street and talked to him and told him as kindly as possible that it was over, I was no longer here for him and he had to leave me alone. It bothered me so much, however, to think about his selfish disregard in showing up at my home at night, not knowing whether my children were home (or worse, his spying on me to be sure they weren't), that I called and left a message that if he ever showed up at my home or office again, I would call the police. I haven't seen him since, now almost a year after ending the A. Yippeee!! finally freee!!!