I knew it was coming

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
I knew it was coming
2
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 1:41pm
xMM has left 3 voice messages for me today. All 3 offering me money for bills. I do need the money, but I will under no circumstances take anything from.

Get this, while I was out at lunch, I saw him leaving my job. This whole break up thing is not going to be easy. The more he sees that I mean business the more panic he is going to get. I just don't want this man in my life any more. When I got back my co-worker told me he had been here looking for me.

What am I going to do? I don't want to panic, but I don't want him showing up at my job, and calling me. Any suggestions?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 8:25pm
Hi Secret

Tell him if he does not back off and leave you alone that you will go to court and get a public restraining order , let him know these can be published in the local paper sometimes and you will not be reponsible if his wife finds out, can you say bye bye


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 11:31pm
first of all -- do not panic. he's trying to get an emotional reaction from you. Do not let him play this manipulation game on you, by basically attempting to bribe you and black mail you by turns.

You are a strong woman. You make your own decisions about who is allowed to be part of your life. He is not invited. That song is sung.

Okay. When my xMM did this -- after I initiated NC -- he offered to leave his W, "take care of me," pay my kids' college tuition (my kids are 10 and 13 but he knew that was something I was already thinking about), followed me, came to my house late at night, showed up my office and my grocery store (not one he frequented), I called him and left a Voice Mail that said, look if I see you around my house or office again, I'll have to call the police." Haven't seen him since.

Be strong & stay firm. He'll go away eventually. If he doesn't, do contact the police. It is a crime to harass another person.