i know i shouldn't be jealous or envious

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Registered: 01-30-2009
i know i shouldn't be jealous or envious
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Fri, 10-09-2009 - 10:34am

i know i shouldn't be jealous or envious of them...but I just can't seem to shake this feeling today. Xap and his new girlf my co worker are heading off on the trip of life time tomorrow for several weeks. They are skipping around the office full of excitiment and hes in and out of her office several times a day. I am not short of holidays myself and thats not what i am envious off. I am just envious of how happy and excited they seem and how in love they seem. Or maybe im jealous of all the attention he lavishes on her I dunno :(


Why cant i just be happy with what Ive got and stop obsessing over how happy and in love he is.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 1:15pm

Hi Gal,


Look at it another way, be deliriously happy it is NOT you. Because you know who and what he is. Her turn is coming, her pain is coming. He is a player in how he so quickly moved on. What's there to be jealous of sweetie?


Hold your head up high, be so very proud to be out of that destructive behavior. Pat yourself on the back and wish them Bon Voyage!!

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Registered: 01-30-2009
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 4:56pm

thanks so much for your words of encouragement. In my head i know you are right and try to keep telling myself all of those things. I just wish my dumb heart would listen to my head lol.

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Registered: 09-29-2009
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 11:35pm
Gal that has got to be hard for you, but I swear the kind of guy he is when the new wears off with her, he will be onto someone else, or if he stays with her he will cheat on her. Your other post give insight into him that he is a ladies man and those kind of guys never change. She will be hurt and you won't be anymore. Its just probably hard to see that when they are in your face all the time. Is there anyway that you or him would get a different position or work in a different area from each other, or different job? I know you would not have this anxiety or even be thinking about them if you didn't have a visual reminder of them. I was getting impatient in getting over this 100% and then realized I go and check his social networking page everyday so I was giving myself a constant reminder. He is in person with you so that may be why these feelings keep popping up
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Registered: 01-30-2009
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 6:59am

hi classy thank so you so much for your adivce. You are bang on the mark there about them being a constant visual reminder. I know i would not be like this if they weren't in my face all day every day. Unfortunately i couldn't get another position due to the nature of my job and financial problems. I got some inside knowledge that XAp is being let go next month due to staff cutbacks. My boss works on a last in first out system and I am there