I may be in the wrong place.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2010
I may be in the wrong place.....
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Sun, 07-04-2010 - 12:58pm

I am sorry if I post in the wrong board but I need some advice from wise women (me not being one of them).


Here goes, and I am not going to sugar-coat anything (even though I am ashamed);


I have been in an A for five years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 1:19pm

Hi Sancris,

I am not one of the seasoned, wise women here since I am newly out of my A, four weeks now of NC, but my gut is telling you not to use the information to end it. I have a feeling it won't do any good. He may come up with a different reason as why he sent the 'I love you' text to his W and you would be reeled in again.

Just end it and be strong about it. Block and walk as they say on this board. Block the phone number. It is the hardest thing to do, but it does work.

It's a tough situation to be in since you are friends with the W. Perhaps someone else has wisdom on how to handle that.

Keep posting, be strong, you know you need to end the A because you tried before.

Movingon at 50!

MovingON

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 1:39pm

Sancris,


You end an A for YOU and your family, not for any other reason. Because you are still in communication with him, by all standards you are still in an A. It is called an emotional affair, and they can be just as damaging as a physical one. Do you really think his W or your H would be more understanding if they found out the two of you just talked every day (behind their backs?) Unless they know that you and your AP are close phone buddies, then you are both acting very inappropriately.


As far as the information you obtained, of course he loves his W. He's still with her, isn't he? You are just a sweet diversion from the every day boring, humdrum life

   ~Iddy~