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i need advice!!
| Sat, 03-20-2004 - 11:48am |
i've been seeing a man who has a girlfriend of almost 3 years . we've been seeing each other for almost 1 year and he has told me he is going to move out of his girlfriend's home and will be breaking up with her to be with me. this has been going on for about 4 months . well i am kind of getting tired of waiting i am getting upset alot and i just want him to be mine - and only mine. he keeps saying that the only difference that would occur is that he would be going home to his house instead of his girlfriends. well no sh*t! not to mention the fact i would have peace of mind also . i want to give him an altimatum (if that is how u spell it!!) he says he loves me - he wants to be with me - he can't wait to be with me-- and of course because of circumstances i think it is bullsh*t!! please help!!

The other thing to think about is if he ever does break up with his GF to be with you, do you think he might do the same thing to you someday.
My advise is not to wait around for him.
JMO
One point I have to make very very clear, DO NOT GO GIVING HIM ULTIMADUMS UNLESS YOUR READY TO FOLLOW THROUGH WITH IT! Also you must understand that by doing so that you are risking the chance that you may not be the one that he chooses to be with. Tough call, I know but take it from one who's been there, if you say something and then back off when things don't go your way they (men) get a better sense of control and you look very needy.
Debbie
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