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I need strength...
| Tue, 06-01-2010 - 10:42am |
It's been over a week since H gave me the ultimatum to stop chatting with other men or he walks...
It was easy to stop last week since I spent so much time and effort smoothing things out with DH and we had such a wonderful happy weekend together.
Now that it's Tuesday and he's off to work, my mind keeps wandering back to my Yahoo IM. I am quite certain that if I log in, there will be messages for me.
I know that the key is to JUST NOT LOG IN. Even delete my account.
It's been a habit for months...to carry my phone around with me...waiting for the next message...enjoying the "company" as I go about my day.
I need to re-learn how to live like a normal person again...and enjoy my true real life.

TE2010,
How about rather than an ultimatum, you sit down and have an honest talk with your H and explain to him that you don't understand what your addiction to this unhealthy attention from other men is all about? Let him know how it makes you feel and that you recognize you need some help. You would probably benefit from a therapist who will help you find those answers. My experience tells me it usually stems from low self-esteem.
If you are honest with your husband and ask for his help in overcoming this problem, my guess is that your marriage is going to grow a lot stronger for the experience and honesty. Allowing yourself faults and to be vulnerable in front of your H