I promise

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Registered: 06-17-2010
I promise
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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 9:53pm

I liked E1's sniffing the crack pipe post with Iddy's NC reminders. E1 said "We hurt ourselves and our recovery when we engage in activity that hinders NC."

That is so true. I messed up today a little bit and it did set me back. We all have things that we have to fight urge to do.

So in addition to NC, I promise to not look down the street anymore to see if XAP's car is there.

Feel free to add your promises :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 10:13pm

Bodhi,

Excellent post! But you are pretty excellent, so I am not surprised. You are pretty amazing and already well respected. If you need a cyber buddy, or just want to chat or something, please let me know. I have some time on my hands and I realize it does get lonely. Although, as Iddy stated, you may want to begin to spend some time alone and cleanse your soul. Keeping busy is key, but you do not have to keep busy with someone...

Iddy, that is amazing that you did all that stuff. WOW.

Now to my promise..

I promise to be here for more than I have lately...
I also promise to post more of my own threads (if you all still care to hear em)
I promise to stay away from any crack pipes or the like...
I promise not to engage in any unhealthy relationship

Luvin

Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 4:50am

I promise to:-


Focus on Fun with DH at a dinner & quiz night this weekend and all future

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 8:00am

Luvin -

Thank you! I think I get what Iddy was talking about. I wasn't able to log in yesterday for some reason to respond on EAS to her. I would love to be your cyber buddy :) I'm going to take extra care in what I do with people in my daily life, making sure that the focus is on me getting better, not just filling a void to fill a void. You can email me from my profile (if I changed it correctly...)

Bodhi

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 8:01am

NC -

Great promises - thank you for sharing :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 04-15-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 9:06am

Great thread Bohdi:

I promise to not sniff the crack pipe (too)
I promise to avoid optional situations where I know xAP will be
I promise to continue to read and post as often as possible here on EAS
I promise to continue to work at re-building trust with my H through actions that earn such trust
I promise to keep trying to stick to my promises (-:

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 9:15am

Thank you TU :) Your last post to Superwoman was great. I hope she gets it. I wish I could give people a transcript of my life for the past several years. They would run as quickly as possible in the other direction!

Bodhi

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Registered: 01-23-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:32am

I was talking to a friend yesterday who told me she was ending her M. Same friend I wrote about a couple of weeks ago who found out her H was cheating and she was dogging the OW. I had to confess to her that I was once an OW and we are human and aren't evil creatures who set out to hurt other ppl. Anyway, she has three little kids under ten and she told me that she would rather be alone than have a man in her life who doesn't value who she is. That made me think about how some of us wonderful women hold on to these cheaters and give them the world when they really don't deserve it. My friend has been M for ten years and she is a school teacher and doesn't make much money. Her H is begging her to stay M and she has thrown him out. She is so adamant that she wants to have ppl in her life that add value and don't lie and cheat on her. My friend is really overweight but she is so confident and secure. I love her attitude.


If she can do it with three little kids, so can you. You don't realize how strong you are. I have read your posts and believe you are a wonderful woman who doesn't have to settle for a liar and cheater. I am rooting for you. When you go to that wedding look your best and be confident and sexy. Sometimes there are single men at weddings. You never know.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:47pm

Great post Bodhi-


I promise to keep xap off of the mental pedastal.


I promise to keep working to put myself and my H first.


I promise to pay it forward on EAS as much as I can.


I promise to love myself.


Hugs,


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/