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I reached for my phone....
| Wed, 08-18-2010 - 7:22am |
To book my room at Hotel Tweenerville
i have had 2
| Wed, 08-18-2010 - 7:22am |
To book my room at Hotel Tweenerville
i have had 2
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NC,
Im soooooo sorry that Im a little late adding to your wonderful and wise post today. I blame it on my Welcome to Tweenerville
Kudos to you for your determination, and hanging in there when the going got tough.
Way to go CSN, think RBM is very quiet....too scared to play golf with 3 strong women??....
Although I play golf everyday, I am not very good at it. I haven't been playing but a few years, and it is a sport that I have not been able to feel real comfortable in, and I still feel like a beginner. It is something that keeps me busy, and the camaraderie of playing with so many friends keeps my mind in the place that it should be. This is my therapy and release from my AP.
It would be a honor to play golf with you all, but it would have to be a virtual golf game, I am afraid. :-)
We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.
RMB
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NC
Your mantra 'Whats the Point' may be the best thing I have ever read! Thats exactly right - there is NO POINT!
You are doing so well mate
IGSxx
Yes, there's still hang-ups and snags along the way, but you're moving forward. Even an inch forward is still forward, I have to remind myself of that since there are days I'd much rather be making leaps and bounds, but a slow crawl is what's happening. Still, it's forward :)
I'll be thinking of you this week(end) since I know I have a few triggers headed my way - wedding of one of my BFF's and within a few days what would have been the one year mark of all of this. Heck, I'm happy it didn't get to that mark - but it will still be triggering. I'll be keeping you and your (re)actions in mind...and I'll be hot on your heals to Hotel Tweenerville ;) Oh, and don't be surprised if I turn your golf game into a Polo match...I've always wanted to ride across a golf course... :p
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry
Walk n' Block. Total NC 08-13-10
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry
Hi Fern
Polo ?.....Thats funny....my H says his secret fantasy is to take his motocrosser (motorbike) across a pristine fairway, rooster tail a bunker or two and finish up carving up a green .....absolute sacriledge if you ask me...
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You guys crack me up!
Sorry I am late chiming in here. Congrats on working through those triggers and NOT acting upon your emotions. I think that is one of the hardest things us enders have to learn to do... NOT act on our emotions and desires. During our A, we got so used to the instant gratification we'd receive from our xap's. We were fueled by emotions and acted on every single one of them. Now, as the dust settles and we have to face triggers as we heal, we have to practice the art of patience. That's how I came up with the 48 hour rule. If you give yourself time to process those emotions, more often than not, you can work it out, come to terms and move on without doing irreparable damage to your healing. Sit with those emotions and don't act. I truly believe that NOT acting is much harder than acting in this case, but after much practice it does get easier. So big kudos to you for making it through this round. It does get easier each time you have such a success. And that "what's the point" mantra is a good one. You can ask yourself that about everything A related. There is no point.
As far as golfing goes- I am really really terrible at it, but I am an exceptionally adept beer girl and love bouncing around in a golf cart, so if you'll have me, I'd love to supply everyone with some tasty beverages.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Thanks jane......all wise feedback, i expect nothing else from you
and YEAH
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