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| Wed, 11-10-2010 - 9:48pm |
So as if my day didn't make me feel irritable as it was...I decided to meet with my friend for a quick bite to eat and then to the movie.
| Wed, 11-10-2010 - 9:48pm |
So as if my day didn't make me feel irritable as it was...I decided to meet with my friend for a quick bite to eat and then to the movie.
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WAIT!
by NOT saying anything to him...You did the 'RIGHT' thing according to your choice.
So let's reframe this - turn it into what's going on with YOU:
Why do you feel you're back at square one?
Did you reach out, text, call email, in REACTION to seeing him?
What answers do you feel you want or are lacking?
Im sorry I have to ask - how long have you been NC?
What are you feeling?
GET IT OUT HERE....Dont get on that slope!!! :)
Here for you,
Michelle
"why didn't I speak to him? I had my chance to get answers"
You've read Alice's post asking why she can't contact her xAP because you just responded to her ... so please, YOU tell US why NOT CONTACTING/SPEAKING TO HIM was THE ONLY RIGHT THING TO DO.
NC = NO CONTACT
I look forward to hearing your response (-:
With Care,
TU.
I know not talking was the right thing to do but it just hurt so bad. I feel like I'm back at square one because seeing him was like a knife in my gut.
I just really want to ask why he insisted on hurting me in the end and if our friendship being thrown out with the trash is worth it.
I miss him...bit just the A part of him but all of it. 13 years. Poof.
"I just really want to ask why he insisted on hurting me in the end and if our friendship being thrown out with the trash is worth it."
I just want to understand this sentence ... are you meaning that if not for the way things ended, you were thinking that you could have gone back to being friends?
Cait ... you know that you could NEVER have gone back to being friends, right?
So regardless of how it ended, you BOTH threw away your friendship when you entered into an affair. And when in an affair, we ARE NOT friends ... friends don't encourage deceit, lying and manipulation ... friends don't steal from friends ... i could go on ...
((hugs))
TU.
Cait you said:
"We met eyes and then I looked away and turned and practically knocked down the people standing in line to get the hell out of there."
I think the eye contact was probably where you got sucked in momentarily.
Cait- You don't realize this yet, but YOU ROCK!
Im torn - in my response.
After Melinda just posted the Transactional Analysis (Drama Triangle) My inclination is to jump in and Rescue... :)
I hope after a good nights sleep that you will wake up feeling in a better frame of mind. Its good you did'nt say anything to xap and that you turned and left. Your first instinct was right and you obeyed it. If you read your question again and ask yourself was it worth it to lose a friendship and I am thinking you will say no then in the future you can build on this to keep your friendships preciouse. I know it hurts cait, but if you let this hurt go you can heal from what really matters in your life and what is most important, that being your family. Take care cait :)
Cait,
When you turned and walked in the other direction, you spoke volumes to him. That's all that matters.
I know you've read enough to understand how the NC thing = no new hurts. You are hurting all over again because you had contact (although involuntary) just by seeing him. Imagine if you would have spoken to him?? Of course you wouldn't have gotten any answers, so
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