Please don't take this in the wrong way since I don't know your personal situation, but how do you know everyone will know if you go NC/LC. Friends grow apart all the time, people's lives and routines change suddenly all the time. There's always a way to limit contact if you really want to. LC is what undermined my second ending. My xap was/is a family friend and I felt that if I went complete NC someone would notice. What it did instead was keep me in an emotional A which eventually gave way to the full-blown A again.
I can't go NC because our small city has many family events..Concerts in Park, Community Pool, Family Picnics etc...Our kids are exactly the same age & are in the same classes this year.
Small community or not. If you really wanted to go NC you could. There is no way that you can't go NC if you really wanted to do so. You are still feeding your addiction and still talking fog talk. Unless your community has written a law which states that all community members must attend all events or you will be jailed you CAN go NC. What you/we did was drastic by having an A, therefore ending the A calls for taking drastic measures. Taking extraordinary precautions to make sure that we don't feed our addictions. I'm sorry to say but I see you back in your A and I see you devastating your DH and probably your xmm's W because you are not understanding that you are setting yourself up for re-entering the A.
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Please don't take this in the wrong way since I don't know your personal situation, but how do you know everyone will know if you go NC/LC. Friends grow apart all the time, people's lives and routines change suddenly all the time. There's always a way to limit contact if you really want to. LC is what undermined my second ending. My xap was/is a family friend and I felt that if I went complete NC someone would notice. What it did instead was keep me in an emotional A which eventually gave way to the full-blown A again.
Thanks for the support!
I cannot go NC at the expense of my kids.
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