I survived

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Registered: 09-21-2007
I survived
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Tue, 08-27-2013 - 11:22pm

Day one down. I'm used to being ignored the day after from AP, so no crying or anything.  Instead of drama as usual, nc will do just fine.  I leaned on my cousin and vented.  Being the over thinker I am, I tried to figure out the why's, but she helped me not go there.  It doesn't matter; just like I didn't matter.  I'm not bitter, stating facts.  He said things to make me think he cared.  And I wanted to believe him.  I wanted to be with him and believe him and in him and us.  The way he treated me is not love.  That much I am trying to convince myself today.  

 

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Tue, 08-27-2013 - 11:38pm

Excellent...you survived!  I'm really glad you have a cousin to lean on and vent.

And yes, why he did this or why he said this...they don't matter. Chances are good that he did and said what he had to do to keep the affair afloat and the feelgoods coming. 

All that should matter is why you are where you are today.  Most realize that they were trying to fill a void and moved their recover along by turning their attention to figuring that out and then learning to fill it with healthier endeavors.  

Congratulations on your first day of NC :)

((hugs))

Clarity


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Registered: 09-21-2007
Wed, 08-28-2013 - 1:16pm
Yes, thank God for my cousin and her being there. I would go crazy without someone to talk to. She knows the whole situation and has always been there. The feelgoods. None of this feels good right now. Although I survived on his crumbs I still miss him. My dr. prescribed a new med along with my other antidepressant, and I believe it is helping lots. Keeping me focused on my work and other things instead of his sorry behind.

 

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