I think I ended my Affair (*new to the board)
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|Wed, 04-02-2014 - 6:23pm|
Hello everyone, I am new here and this is my first post.
I am a married woman and my AP is a married man for 9 months now. This is the first time I have cheated on anyone let alone my partner of 10 years. I decided I wanted to end things with my AP because I want to work on my marriage or get a divorce if I am truely unhappy with my husband instead of cheating on him. My sex life is great in my marriage but I think I got into the affair because I stopped hearing how beautiful I am and all the stuff that makes a woman special. I got all of that from my AP. There are other things just wrong with the affair here and there and I know it isn't going to go anywhere. He lies (you can say I do it since I am having an affair) but he is methodical and pathologic with his lies and he is a sex addict. I also found numerous online profiles of him on websites like ashley maddision, plenty of fish, adult friend finder etc.
I typically initiate contact with him but I haven't done so in over a week and I haven't heard from him either. Typically, if he hasn't heard from me in about 3 days he will get in contact. I figure since I haven't contacted him and he hasn't bothered to contact things have ended, should I assume that? He has started becoming a little distant lately though our last contact was really awesome and he told me how much he loved and missed me vice versa but I am just not into this anymore. Should I just tell him that and then no more contact? I think i am trying to avoid confrontation by just hoping that it will all go away if I don't contact him. I have to say I do care about him and I miss him but this will not work and I want to work on my marriage. Any advice?