I think I just ended it....

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Registered: 12-13-2010
I think I just ended it....
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:15pm

As several of you know, I have been trying to end this dumb thing.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:50pm

SUNRISE!

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 4:03pm

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 4:50pm
SUNRISE,

This is a board for people committed to ending their affairs. You are welcome back when you make that commitment.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-13-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 6:23pm
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 7:59pm
Sunrise,
my dear girl -
you can't "accidentally" end an A. Either you end or you don't. There is no half way. I want to believe you really are the end and so will offer you a welcome and remind you that if you are truly committing, then block and walk. No turning back, no more hurt, no new hurt.

Your post sounds like you are trying to talk yourself into it - even going so far to admit that this is a chickenS*&^ way to do it - but the point is you CAN do it. YOU are worth more.

This is real life, and we are here to help if you are committed. No rescuing anyone but yourself. He just doesn't matter.

Best of luck - read often, post often, let us know how you are.
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 8:45pm

Sunrise,

Just as there's no..."kinda pregnant" there's No "I think I just ended it".

WHAT IS STOPPING YOU FROM ENDING IT?

Respectfully,

Michelle

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 11-16-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 8:58pm
Sunrise,

You were so proud of that pic, so happy for your beautiful family, why would you want to change that by continuing to take the risk?

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 1:37pm

Hi Sunrise,

Sorry to hear you are still struggling. It is really helpful to go back and reread your old posts. Here are some excerpts from your previous posts:

  • I learned this past weekend that my H withdrew money from one of our accounts and when I asked him about it, he said "in case I need it to move out".

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-30-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:09pm
Sunrise...hoping that we will see you more once you have committed to ending the A. I know, it's so incredibly scaring to actually end the A and you won't really understand how freeing it feels until you have time to heal and focus on you and your beautiful family. Best of luck and when you are ready for that wonderful support from EAS you know where to find it.
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Registered: 11-16-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:46pm

Sunrise, you also have to really question why a supposedly 'friend' would be upset about you sharing a happy family pic? Or why you would regard yourself as being 'insensitive' for showing him. That in itself illustrates abnormal behaviour, and confirms that A's are not healthy, normal human relationships.

Sunrise, yes it is a powerful addiction, one that leads to the destruction of lives, have you thought about how this would affect your daughters if they found out? I have daughters too, and i know it would impact them in the most negative way. You have to take control of your life here, and cut all contact with him, for you and your family. The irreparable

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