I Thought I Was A-OK. Now....

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Registered: 07-23-2003
I Thought I Was A-OK. Now....
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 4:28pm
Hi Everyone,

I broke up A with XMM 3 weeks ago. I am M too. A lasted on and off for 2-1/2 years. The 1st week was rough for me. The 2nd and 3rd week were much better. I said HEY! I can do this..it's not as hard as I thought it would be. Now, entering the 4th week of NC, I feel like crap all over again. I'm once again depressed and very sad. Thought of contacting XMM today, but didn't. HELP...Please! I don't want to make a fool of myself. Is this normal...to be sad, doing much better, and then back to square 1? Thanks in advance for advice.

christa

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 7:16pm
I think it's normal..it's so easy to forget the bad and only remember the good..I find too that I get "clouded" about things. Like I can know in my head and heart that ending it was the right thing for me. But two weeks later I will start thinking "Oh how sad..i bet he is upset that i won't accept email from him etc." and start to feel badly and yet- he had really messed with my head and heart--I can't do it anymore..and need it to be completely over.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 8:55pm
HI Christa

What your going through is completly normal in every way.

You going to find that you are going to go through cycles were you will be OK then depressed angry ETC... it is much like a drug withdrawl cycle and has many things in common with it.

If you refuse to cave in you will find that the cycles will IN TIME become less often, less intense and shorter.

When they het you need to keep busy and stay away from your PHONE , delete his e-mail address and his name from yor IM buddy list, block his incomeing e-mail, if you can casue delays in your ability to contact him the urge to do so will pass soon.

I suggest that you post here rather then contact him and read many post here so you realize you have lots of people that understand and will help you.

Hang in there

Free

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Registered: 03-05-2003
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 10:34am
Christa,

It is very normal to feel what you are feeling!! It takes lots of time. Get through each day and before long you will notice that you are having more good times than bad. You can do this!!! Keep posting, it will make you even stronger!!

Karry

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 8:59am
Hi Karry,

Thanks so much for responding. The emotional ups and downs are killing me. I want to forget XMM and this A so badly. This board certainly does help me though. I read the posts often, for inspiration. :)

christa