The "I vow to.." List

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Registered: 01-07-2011
The "I vow to.." List
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Mon, 01-10-2011 - 10:58am

Good morning everyone. I hope everyone's doing well today. Its a Monday but let's make the most of it..

One thing I've found very theraputic in my recovery from this addiction is journaling. So I wanted to post this and hope that it benefits someone who's taking those first wobbly steps out of the fog and into the light..

Being out of the fog for nearly 2 years and nearly sucked back in last week, I wanted to make sure I reminded myself of the following:

I vow to make my husband children and myself a priority.

I vow to take care of what's important in my life and not worry about xap and his life.

I vow to focus on the here and now. Not on the what was.

I vow to quiet the self talk. What was said and done is now said and done. No more going back and forth in my head.

I vow that when I feel weak, when the feelings of withdrawls are so overwhelming, that I'll sit with my feelings and come here to EAS. Here's where I'll get the advice and support I need from intelligent people who've been down the road I'm currently on.

I vow not to respond anymore. Block and walk. No contact = No new hurts. (Isn't that the truth!)

I vow not to worry about having others validate me. Only God and myself can do this.

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Registered: 05-15-2010
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 11:55am

Waking Up,

What a wonderful message !

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Registered: 01-03-2011
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 12:00pm
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Registered: 01-07-2011
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 7:40pm
Thank you both to MC and Finding me for your thoughtful responses. I really appreciate it!

Here's to another day, another step in the right direction..
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 7:46pm
Hi WU,

I love your I vow to list, it is excellant and very well thought out. Thank you for posting and sharing it is very helpful:)
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 1:47am
WOW TO THE VOW LIST! WU!
You reminded me of a few myself.
Thank you for posting this.
Im going to create MY OWN.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010