I want to see the future

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Registered: 03-08-2009
I want to see the future
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Wed, 03-24-2010 - 4:37pm

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 4:59pm
I cannot tell you how many times I've pondered this very question.
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Registered: 02-02-2010
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 6:32pm

Oh Alice! You have me laughing... I am quite certain the my xap will still be with his W in 3, 5, 10 years. He is not strong enough to leave even if he REALLY wanted to. I really do hope that he finds happiness, but I am not sure he knows how to be happy. At any rate, guess what? It ain't my problem :) I am not responsible for his happiness, only my own and that is VERY liberating :P

And yes, I recite that often- if he really loved me, he would have moved mountains to be with me. Xap could barely bring himself to move a meeting let alone a mountain. Good riddance.

Jane
NC since January 28, 2010
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Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 7:17pm

Yup, the sad thing in my affair was that I met his wife and I witnessed the love between them too.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 10:14pm

Hi Alice,


I want to make a rewind of my not so distant past to the time last year that i am lost as to what to do with myself and yes to see my future (double

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 7:21am

Well, darling, almost 6 years later , XJAM is still M, still miserable, and is still dropping smelly little

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 03-08-2009
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:08am
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Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:18am
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Registered: 12-11-2009
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:23am

Being a MW and seeing a single man I unfortunately gave many lines to my xap that may have been slightly untrue to justify my actions. Whose to say that these MM aren't embellishing just a tad to you ladies about the problems in their marriage to keep you on that string. I'd be willing to bet that many of the MM are perfectly happy at home with their wives and family, but have you believing that their miserable.

Just a thought....

AAI

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:44am

Whose to say that these MM aren't embellishing just a tad to you ladies about the problems in their marriage to keep you on that string. I'd be willing to bet that many of the MM are perfectly happy at home with their wives and family, but have you believing that their miserable.


That is the truest (if that's a word) statement I have read on this board. Part of what keeps us in an A (especially single ladies) is believing and hanging on to every word MM says without any proof that they are telling the truth. In a real relationship truth can be verified because you are intertwined with your partners real life and you see what is real and don't have to rely on just his words.


Oftentimes the M isn't bad but ppl cheat anyway. Or they make it bad after they cheat by withdrawing from their spouse or treating them badly because of the guilt from their A. M takes hard work and when someone tells you they are cheating because they have a bad M it's a red flag that the person has opted to give up on their M but stay and enjoy the fruits of having two women serve them (so to speak). One at home and one who is willing to hide out in the shadows and settle for anything just to be with them. For some ppl they will play the middle for as long as they can.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 10:06am

Now you're getting it, AAI. There usually is nothing wrong at home other than boredom, and the same old same old. But after X number of years being M, this is normal. The honeymoon can't last forever and people expecting

   ~Iddy~ 


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