I want to tell him off

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Registered: 07-16-2010
I want to tell him off
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Sun, 02-20-2011 - 1:44pm
X mm was very nasty in a few texts last week and said some untrue bs and I want to defend myself and tell him how mean of a person I think he is and explain some things I think my rage is unhealthy and has made me unbearable at home to my h and kids. So without saying my peace when he said his, I think it's unfair. Whet should I do???
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Registered: 02-02-2011
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 2:07pm
First of all dont do it, it will bring you back in. he is going to think what he wants to think no matter what you say so why waste your breath defending yourself to someone who is no longer going to be part of your life? Write him an email put it all in there get it all out BUT Do not send it to him, post it here read it to a friend but dont give it to him. At the very least save it for the 48 hour rule and see how you feel.
I know how you feel I walked w/o saying goodbye (sent an email I later deleted so he never saw) I have moments of wanting to at least explain,i actually wrote it but its in my box not his.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 4:22pm

D- Looking4happy gave you some good advice. Take it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 6:14pm

Hi DD,

I think you should work towards letting it go and not pursue it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 6:29pm
Don't stoop to his level DD, you are above that. Deep down he knows what the truth is, there is no denying of the truth. Harboring all that negativity is just not worth the damage it can cause to your mental/physical self.

Take comfort in the fact that JAM is stuck with his ugly self, and this toxin will no longer manifest in your life.

V888
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 6:42pm

DD -

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 8:25pm

Dear DD,

Please try to forget all the BS.