LfH ... good for you for coming to the board. I hope that you are working hard to move past the urge to text him, and instead of focusing on what is happening within you that would make you want to hurt again so badly.
ALSO how selfish of you if you DO decide to text him. YOU ended things. You cared enough about yourself (and him) to end this destructive relationship. If you choose to break NC and go on a little fishing trip, then it is the same thing as a drug dealer hanging outside the drugs of a rehabilitation unit. YOU are better than that. SET yourself free and please do not act on your feelings. They are just feelings and they will pass.
GET BUSY. GO for a walk, call a friend, reflect on all the goodness in your life, have a bath, run whatever you need to do. Implement the 48 hour rule of doing NOTHING until 48 hours is up. While in an affair we conditioned ourselves to respond to every single emotion - NO IMPULSE control at all. If we were high we acted manic, LOW we were depressed ... UP AND DOWN ... HIGHS AND LOWS... just because that was your familiar, doesn't mean that that is how life should be lead. Life happens in the quiet spaces of choices made with dignity, intergrity and respect for yourself & others.
YOU ENDED THIS MADNESS. Now please continue to have the courage to see it through.
Do not do it! Work past this urge. It will get you thru the next urge, you will be proud you did not do it. If you do, you are opening up a can of big fat worms. U will feel worse. I have never had someone come here after breaking contact and felt good. Not once. You will feel shame. SILENCE is saying everything that needs to be said and nothing you say will matter. I am certain of that. I am also certain that you will regret sending the text. LET HIM GO. Focus on you, work or whatever but DO NOT TEXT HIM. Leave it be, the moment will pass. You will be so proud. DONT DO IT!
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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I hear you Happy... I feel it right now too.
ALSO how selfish of you if you DO decide to text him. YOU ended things. You cared enough about yourself (and him) to end this destructive relationship. If you choose to break NC and go on a little fishing trip, then it is the same thing as a drug dealer hanging outside the drugs of a rehabilitation unit. YOU are better than that. SET yourself free and please do not act on your feelings. They are just feelings and they will pass.
GET BUSY. GO for a walk, call a friend, reflect on all the goodness in your life, have a bath, run whatever you need to do. Implement the 48 hour rule of doing NOTHING until 48 hours is up. While in an affair we conditioned ourselves to respond to every single emotion - NO IMPULSE control at all. If we were high we acted manic, LOW we were depressed ... UP AND DOWN ... HIGHS AND LOWS... just because that was your familiar, doesn't mean that that is how life should be lead. Life happens in the quiet spaces of choices made with dignity, intergrity and respect for yourself & others.
YOU ENDED THIS MADNESS. Now please continue to have the courage to see it through.
Much concern,
TU.
LFH, oh I hear ya loud and clear.
Do not do it! Work past this urge. It will get you thru the next urge, you will be proud you did not do it. If you do, you are opening up a can of big fat worms. U will feel worse. I have never had someone come here after breaking contact and felt good. Not once. You will feel shame. SILENCE is saying everything that needs to be said and nothing you say will matter. I am certain of that. I am also certain that you will regret sending the text. LET HIM GO. Focus on you, work or whatever but DO NOT TEXT HIM. Leave it be, the moment will pass. You will be so proud. DONT DO IT!
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Iam in total agreement here :: DO NOT DO IT!!
I have not even once heard a good story that came out of a re-contact.
LFH,
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HERE HERE!!!!