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| Fri, 08-27-2010 - 4:22pm |
I am feeling much better today; I cleaned my desk, re-arranged my desk and my entire work area, I am listening to much more upbeat music, I am making a list of what I need to do/get done in my personal life, I’ve made a list of why I can’t stand XAP and all he has done to hurt me.

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CSN
Excellent!!
You're being positive and pushing yourself through!
You rock!
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"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present"
CG,
Good for you. Rearranging our workspace can do wonders. I changed around my desk and monitor so my back was to him when he was in the room. I came to work later in the AM to avoid parking lot encounters, and left a few minutes earlier to avoid having to say " See you tomorrow or whatever." ;-) If you work for a larger company (only 3 of us in the office), make sure you park in a different location and use a different door if you can.
I am sure you have read "Rules to maintain LC at the workplace" in the HL. If you haven't lately, read them again and again. I also dressed down so Xmm had nothing to feast his eyes on, but then again, I am the only woman in the office. Breaking the habit of always looking your best does NOT benefit you until you are much further along in your healing.
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Now make a list of all the things YOU can do to protect yourself from ever letting him hurt you again.
((Hugs))
~Iddy~
Thank you guys!!! I appreciate all the words of encouragement. I feel much better today; it's a new week, I have a new frame of mind, I am realizing how much better off I am for having an XAP that does not fish and chase me, even more so because he knows I'd stumble and crumble and it would wreck me all over again, he knows how vulnerable I am right now.
Anyway, Iddy I like your idea of making a list of how he won't ever hurt me again and I'm working on that right now!!!
I feel I'm at the point now where I truly letting to and accepting the fact it is OVER and there is NO MORE and being okay with that, now I just have to work on getting strong so if he ever does want to go fishing, I'm prepared.
Thanks again!