Iddy's in the House...literally. ;-)

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Iddy's in the House...literally. ;-)
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 8:37am

I'll be right here all day due to the blizzard that struck last night. I feel bad for anyone who has to be out on the roads today. So, please use this thread to ask questions, to vent, or just to check in and say "Hi."

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 2:41pm

I am snowed in too.

After catching up on some emails, I am going to do some marking and enjoy the quiet of my house. Lately we have had a flurry of really hard feelings. My H has reached a reach breaking point in therapy, wherein ALL his angry over the hurts that were caused to him as a child are crashing over him. He is breaking down. It is the most powerful experience I have shared with someone so close to me. And having attended births for years, that is saying a lot. Watching the fear & uncertainty, the utter shock at his own behavior, the shocking realizations of what was done to him, not done for him (protection) is all in the foreground now. I am once again in awe of our capacity as human beings to survive the unsurvivable, and as we have witnessed here, how PAINFUL and SCARY it is when all those distortions fall away and we are left to stand in the nakedness of our own truth.

It has been the first time I have had to make deliberate statements about boundaries for the children. Protecting them while he goes through this process. IT FEELS so good to be able to assert boundaries again. I forgot how fierce I was before my affair. Once in it I felt undeserving to even whisper in disagreement. NOW, SHE'S BACK. Only I see so much clearly. There is less fear and I am stronger. I am struck sometimes by the passing thought - HOW would I have managed this situation if I was still in the thick fog of the affair?! I get a cold chill and then sigh deeply - realizing I will never have to know. I am here. It is hard. Life is hard. BUT I can hold it and not run and hide into the arms of JAM.

Much love,

TU.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 2:44pm

Then forget Siberia she lives in the Arctic Circle!

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:02pm
HI IDDY!!!! HI HI HI HI HI!!!

Man, I am somewhat jealous....but out here on the east coast we have been pummeled week after week and I just could not afford to stay at home :(

So I braved the public transit system and schlepped through the 12 inches of new snow from last night and got my arse in the lab.

But, thinking of you getting to laze around in fuzzy socks and robes makes me smile. Its funny, I am sure in younger days you would have begged for a day off post-B-day! LOL ;)

I hope you are safe, by the looks of it things got kinda crazy out that way with the wind.

so wish I could have spent the morning with all you lovely ladies...so much more engaging then these damn fungi!!

Love and Hugs mama bear...take care relaxing in the den
peace&light
Foggy
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:05pm

Mom,

I cannot say for sure if that is where I saw it. I’ve seen it in several threads and it has been over a period of time so it’s hard to say for sure. If it the idea of viewing it in a different light has given you a helpful tool on your Ending journey then it’s all good! Just don’t want anyone to feel called out or picked on because that is not my purpose at all.

TU,

It’s HUGE your DH has the courage to face that level of pain. You sound like an incredible support team for one another.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:08pm

((TU))

Wow! Right now I am hurting for your H. You say breakdowns....are they producing breakthroughs as well?

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:11pm

Are y'all confusing mistake with accident?

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:18pm
Dr. Foggy,

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Good Lord, I hope so! ;-)

Now, if you want to talk about fungi......ah, never mind. This board is about focusing on ourselves, right peops?

12" inches of NEW snow? Now I call that dedication. Do you wear a lab coat? Protective goggles? Latex gloves? Just trying to get the whole image thing straight in my head. After all, now you know about my fuzzy socks and snuggly robe. :)

Mama bear loves the hugs. Thanx! (Keep one for yourself)
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:50pm

Hey Deester,

Nope wasn’t thinking about mistake as an accident. More the idea that the word is often used to minimize actions.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:56pm

Foggy,

Hope you get employee of the month cause I don’t know if I could have that dedication for any compensation amount. At the very least, I would have had to take a nap at lunch to recoup from the expended energy during the commute.

Oh and thanks for saving me from PETA in the other thread!

Wishing you peace though out your work day and an energy drink,

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 10-19-2010
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:57pm
Great post E1. Thank you for these words.