Idea to help when it hurts...

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Idea to help when it hurts...
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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 10:15pm

6 days no contact, if you do not count his wife calling me and telling him I called her. He emailed me and I ignored it. He yelled and said a bunch of really mean things. Very hurtful. Called me crazy. Funny part is, she called me. But she has him super mad at me to keep him away. Which is fine by me, just fine. It does hurt tho. I miss the guy I thought I knew. The one that was not married to begin with. It does hurt. But something really helped me today and I just fell into it.

Something that really helped me today. I just happened to look at old pics of beforeI ever knew him him, pics of me and my kids. Pics of fam and friends. Pics of good times, before he ever entered my life. I looked so much more confident. I felts so much better about myself. I was a better mom. I was a better worker. I took care of myself. I thought to make myself look good just for me, not for him. It was a good thing. I saw the old me. And I miss her. It helped me. It may or may not help you. Go thru old photos. Go as far back as you have to. Old albums, an old camera, anything to help take you there. It really helped. I am determined to get her back. I am determined to look in the mirror and see her again. Hope it helps someone. Let me know. Thanks.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 6:34am

SJ,


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Now this is the kind of

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-06-2007
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:05am

Sj,


Literally, looking in the mirror and seeing myself after a 3 day meltdown, was

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 11:00am

thank you (-:

it does help to 'see' ... to 'remember'. I want to find a new me. One that is well enough to make herself a priority and not find herself open to such hurt.