ill see him in 3 hrs and im a wreck

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Registered: 03-11-2008
ill see him in 3 hrs and im a wreck
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Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:15pm

Today is the day that I will see him. My stomache is so upset and Ive been crying. Our event is in Feb and I emailed him regarding the food situation because he missed the last meeting. He emailed back saying" Lisa, his wife, would be more than happy to do the catering and below are her prices.


I was sooo upset. He knows that this banquet is going to be hard enough on me because his entire family will be there as will mine.


But, I responded in kindness and said "


Please thank your wife for submitting her estimates and being so detailed. Alicia and I will go over it and the other alternatives for food so that we can
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Registered: 12-31-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:41pm

Hi AAE,


I don't know the background of your situation, but I think the reason he is behaving this way is that he wants to know he

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:42pm

Alone,


I have been having a tough day....and not sure I can help, but no one has responded so

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 6:12pm

You've gotten some really good advice and I would only like to add..Do not make eye contact. If you have to look at him, focus on his eyebrows or forehead. Eye contact will weaken your resolve as well as his. IMO, his being cold to you is his way of self protection. I did the same thing for months when Xmm and I ended our A. I was curt in my responses, and never looked at him if at all possible. I couldn't even tell you what the man wore that first year out of our affair. .


Be your sweet, little, professional self, and hold it together. You can crumble after he leaves, but I will hope that you will be okay with this. Sometimes we make mountains out of mole hills with worry, only to find out we were much stronger than we gave ourselves credit for.


(((Hugs)))


   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 11:14pm

Ok. Yesterday went PERFECT!!!

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:29am

I think you did very very well. You did not engage him in anything personal and kept it business.


Kudos!


Iddy, Waiting, and Mickey to name a few

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 9:51am

Great job, AAE!