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| Sat, 04-10-2010 - 1:46pm |
Hi Everyone,
I've been gone for awhile b/c the risk of posting was too great.
| Sat, 04-10-2010 - 1:46pm |
Hi Everyone,
I've been gone for awhile b/c the risk of posting was too great.
Hello to a whole new MickeyJ,
I was thinking about you last week and wondering what happened to you.
I see from your post you now “know” what you want.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Hi Mickey-
I am not 100% familar with your story, but it sounds like mine (as so many do here since all A's are made of the same ingredients). I am glad to hear the strength in your post. You are done... that is clear. I hope the fog starts to lift for you. Speaking as someone who is M, I would caution against making any decisions about your M until you are out of the A fog completely. I know that I was ready to walk out on my H and even the day I ended it with xap, my plan was to stay with friends for a bit to clear my head. I am glad that I didn't. As I got farther out of my A and he wasn't in my head as much, I did start to see things more clearly about my M. And discovered through a series of difficult conversations with my H that it was worth saving. I certainly know that every situation is different, I just advise that you allow yourself a bit of time to free yourself from the pain of ending the A before moving on completely and leaving your M.
Also, I would warn allowing your friend to push you one way or another. I had many supportive friends through this ordeal who gave me advice... many thought I should leave my H because of course, they were seeing my M through my eyes... and at the time I was doing everything in my power to convince myself it was over. Friends are awesome, but they don't live in your house. They can't be 100% objective because they are only
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Hey Mickey,
Long time no see :-) But I am glad you're back. Although of course I wished you wouldn't have caved, but hey, I caved many many times and one day it will really be the ENDING. And I know that's what you want. It's good to see you again.
Hugs,
HTGO
Hi Mickey,
Thank you for all of those who replied.
I'm not as strong as I sound.
Hi Mickey -
I'm so glad to see you are back, albeit maybe not under the best circumstances. I can completely empathize with your thinking that you could live
Oh, Mickey. I am so sorry you are back here, but at the same time, glad that you are!! Does that make sense??
I remember you from several months ago when i was just a lurker. Your stories were so painful to read. I'm going to have to do a search and refresh my memory. But I remember you couldn't even get out of bed after the A.
I don't have much time but I just wanted to tell you something my T told me. I, too, am not sure whether to stay or leave my marriage. I've been married 27 years and I have felt like this for a very long time. I've always been afraid to do anything about it for fear that I'd be
Thank you always....I will remember what your T told you.
As for me....my mental and emotional health has been beat down to dust.