I'm back and need help

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
I'm back and need help
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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 2:49pm

I don't know if you remember my situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 3:12pm

Hi AAI,

Gosh it has been a long time since I have typed those initials here!

Glad to see you back…well sort of…just wish it was under better circumstances.

I can imagine the amount of courage it took to post and bear it all. You have my admiration for that. Five gold stars for honesty!!! It’s a good start. The more honest and raw we are the better chance we have of working our way out of the hole we dug.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 3:12pm

FIrst of all, glad to see you back.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 3:26pm

Hi AAI,

So....I'm just a little confused here. You are pouring out your story to us, but one that really doesn't belong on this board because I didn't read anything about you wanting to end your freshly consummated betrayal, just that he's younger than you and it probably wouldn't work. So, what is it you expect to hear from a group of struggling enders who are just trying to keep their heads above the murky waters of what once was their A? And as far as us vets go, well, you been given tons of advice in the past and it doesn't look like it did any good. :smileysad:

You came here a short while back mentioning your attraction to this new guy and I poo-pooed your actions then. I advised you to set boundaries and put distance between the two of you...um...hikes, biking trips, movies, and dinners is not creating distance. Hello??? So....in your face, Iddy. (Mind you, I don't take these things personally so no need to fret). :smileywink:Just wanted to make it clear that I am done with the advice giving other than the following:

End this A, get into counseling, decide if you want to stay M, and then see if junior is still interested ONCE you are an available women.

That's all I've got.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 3:29pm

Good God, AAI. Are we twins?? I'm 48. Three As--first one 7 years into the M, second one 13 years later, and this last one last year. I am realizing that my M is a big part of my problem. Of course I have personal issues, as well.

Why do you think you allowed yourself to get involved with an A again? Clearly you knew all the signs and what kind of havoc and hurt it

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:12pm

Uh, I don't even know where to start...

The first time I read your post, my heartbeat started

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:31pm

Yes Awayst2, I am done!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:32pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:35pm

Heart,

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:41pm
Gal, You are right! I was toast! Please don't write me off. To all you new enders I apologize from the bottom of my screwed up heart. Please don't make the same mistake I did.