I'm Done

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Registered: 12-20-2007
I'm Done
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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 9:27am

My now XAP and I been together for a little over 3 years.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: crazy_girl
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:18am

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: crazy_girl
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:27am

Hey, CG -
It's Monday! The first day of the rest of your life. I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and pulling for you to knock the LC route out of the park! Please post later and let us know how it went.

Prayers for strength and courage!
Dee

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Registered: 12-20-2007
In reply to: crazy_girl
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 6:30am
Did ok on day 1.
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: crazy_girl
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 7:01am

Good job, CG. I know how hard it is to act indifferent when your insides are screaming otherwise, but as we say around here, "Fake it until you make it." I had to do that for months on end until my heart got the message. Then one day the stress of it all seemed to have lifted from my limbs. It certainly didn't happen overnight, I can tell you that. It took consistent action on my part, 8 hours a day, to show him I meant business (AND ONLY BUSINESS) after I ended the A. Unfortunately it's the price we have to pay for messing around with someone we work with.


Now, on to day #2. My heart goes out to you, but keep your eyes on your goal to break this addiction. In 3 weeks you will be getting used to the avoiding and ignoring but I seriously suggest that you tell him "It's over" if he persists on wanting to know what is wrong. You are not going to believe it yourself, until you say the words. I know that's scary to even think about, but it's all part to owning up.


(((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: crazy_girl
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 7:04am

CG -

It is going to be hard having to see him during the day. But you are strong and you can do this. Just follow Iddy's example :)

Good job keeping your attitude in check when he called later in the day. Do it again today - just BE. If you can't be neutral for yourself, be neutral so it doesn't feed his ego. If you start to feel weak, go for a walk to clear your head or post here. Do whatever you have to do to maintain LC. Silence speaks volumes and you are way better than those other little pieces of a$$ he has in his cell phone.

Bodhi

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