I'm going to end it... Tomorrow.
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| Sun, 09-27-2009 - 8:25pm |
I'm sure many before me have uttered the phrase, "I'm ending it tomorrow." Well, I am.
I hope.
I want to..
I think? Argh!
We're both M & we've been FWB for nearly a year. We work together - ugh! I've come to the conclusion that no real friend could do what he's done over the last year. He's had no real malicious intent, never promised anything more than FWB, but a real friend couldn't compartmentalize the way he as been able to. The end of it for me literally started last week when I had an Epiphany moment that he's just using me.
I immediately initiated LC - would have been NC except for the stupid working together thing... Boy did that get his attention. By Friday he was 1 email away from breaking out the "L" word he was so freaked out.
Lunch plans tomorrow, he wants to "clear the air." OMG is he going to be blown away. I can't do this anymore. I respect myself too much to be the OW. Wish me luck.

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I wish you loads of luck and courage on ending your affair. You can do it.
Please come back and tell us what happened.
((((smok9977)))) big hugs!! I'll be thinking about you tomorrow and sending good vibes. YES you are making the right decision. And don't let WORDS sway you - only actions have any worth in A-land.
Deep down, the ugly truth is, he's scared of losing his nice little side-dish of cake. And yes being the cake does absolutely nothing to help with our self-esteem and self-worth, does it. You deserve to be the main course at all times, sweetie! And with a man of integrity, not a deceptive cheater!
You CAN do this. Affairs are not worth the anguish, period.
good luck for tomorrow, and come back to tell us how it went :)
trixie xo
"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.”
I am with you. Literally! My OM is married and so am I. Today I sent him a message ending the affair, then I deleted
I couldn't bring myself to having lunch with him today. I can't see him. He's going to take one look at me with those big, sweet, sad puppy dog eyes and I'm gonna cave.
I did ignore his emails all morning and pretended not to see him the dozen or so times he walked past my office, then I high-tailed it out of the building right at noon. I came home to read some posts here to help refocus my strength for this afternoon.
I'm going to have to end this by email... Ugh.
Pushing that send button is hard, but in order to start living a real honest life, you have to. Try and remember you are not doing anything to him - you are doing something for you. And you are far more important than him. Ending this affair is for you, for your life. Believe me, he will fine.
Post back here and read every post you can. You will need the support this board offers. Be strong!!
Compartmentilizing is a funny thing to me.....because I can't do it.
Argh - I'm so NOT used to failing at things... =(
I tried to end it and somehow let him guilt me into seeing him for lunch tomorrow. He basically said that if I really feel this way, I needed to tell him to his face.
Curse him - he knows he has more chance to be able to break my resolve in person. But, I'm going to keep trying until I can get him out of my life - as much as possible anyways, seeing as how I was stupid enough to get involved with a M coworker.
Geeze, I quit smoking, cold turkey as my 2009 new years resolution, with no trouble. How did I let a man make me this weak?!
wwwwwwwait a darn minute!!!
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Okay Smok...so why is it that he is in control.
Morning smok :)
I'm wondering if men are so much better than women at
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