im going nuts...

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im going nuts...
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Sat, 01-02-2010 - 7:37pm

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In reply to: dm2006
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 8:55pm
You need reminders?

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 9:45am
thank you clarity
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 4:25pm

Clarity did the ol’ show you your own words with the cut and paste maneuver. An oldie but a goody!


Debbra, you’ve experienced so much loss over the past year I doubt you had time to mourn the loss of xAP or the loss of family members.


I remember many of your posts but don’t remember is you’ve ever mentioned you were in IC to deal with all this hitting you at once.


What I do remember from old posts is that you use fantasy a lot as an escape. With the Holidays which are a trigger especially when you’ve lost family members combined with the call from xAP (another trigger), you likely went to fantasy mode to cope with all the pain you were experiencing.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 9:09pm

i know that letting go is a state of mind. but what i dont get if that letting go is a state of mind then how come i cant just make up my mind and let it go.i know that its easier to just let go and its for the better. but i cant seem to allow myself to do that.frustrating!


why am i holding myself back,constantly.maybe thats an answer ill find out when i go to T.


i know when all of my fantasies started, and it didnt start with H and i. Before all of that realizing this later;is that i wasnt full awake or happy in my life. Then i started making changes that 'made me happy' and here i am.

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 10:42pm

its just i dunno what to say when i do make the call


All you have to say is something like, "I have an addictive personality and my addictions are not healthy...I want to stop this behavior and need some help figuring it all out."


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Registered: 03-03-2005
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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 12:37am
dm,
i read the post clarity posted to remind you of what you posted...it was some good stuff and really helped me...u have more strength than you think, you need to learn thru T to use it and get thru this. Ur original post should be a good reminder but even more of a motivator for you to get you together.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: dm2006
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 1:36am

Hi Debbra,


On the Eastern Medicine, I like the idea of treating the mind, body, and spirit. I had given some thought to becoming a Message Therapist. When I give my H a back rub, he says I always know where it hurts and how to make it better. My sister says the same when I rub her sore neck. So yeah maybe I would be good at something like that. Well enough about my magic hands and on to more about you, you, you which is why I’m writing back.


I like the other responses you got and I wanted to zone in on a few sentences in your response.


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.