I'm officially done with this phase of..

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Registered: 03-27-2003
I'm officially done with this phase of..
Thu, 05-08-2003 - 6:32pm
my life. I have had a rotten week and I'm so tired of feeling this way and it is time that it ends once and for all. There are a variety of things going on in my life right now and I need to focus on what is important. In my logical mind OM is not an important aspect. He was a player, arrogant,self-centered and stand-offish. I am tired of feeling like I owe him something because I was the one that was married. He could've cared less if I was married or not. He was not into the relationship for the long haul. He told me when we first met that he broke up with the last four women he dated, which is a sign there. He broke 1/2 of the plans we ever made, never answered the phone when I called, was always "away on business" on the weekends (business on the weekends....that's a good one!!!) Besides, he may have been great to look at but he made the most bizarre grunting noises when he "finished" (I asked him the first time if he was okay, really ticked him off) and out of bed he was boring. I can only hear so much about how he is part Italian, wears the finest clothes, likes the best wines, blah bblah blah.... Yuckk was I totally crazy.....

I am not going to post about him anymore. I'm pretty bored of discussing him. I will keep checking in here because I'd really miss you guys if I never checked in!!!

Thank you for everything and GT if I slip and write a whiny "poor me" post please remind me of this and put me in my place!!!

Love to you guys,


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Registered: 04-29-2003
Thu, 05-08-2003 - 7:13pm
I hear you girl! I was also the married woman with a sOM. This was my mans longest relationship ( A year ). A little commitment phobic I'd say. I think I always confused great sex for love. He also would've bored me in every day life. He is anything but spontaneous and could not adapt to all situations like myself or H. I always said if I was gonna do this I should've done it right at least. He was very kind and respectful, very sweet, but also very selfish. He only wanted me around when it was convienient for him. I was the married one!!! I used to tell myself if I gave my husband half of what I gave my OM I would've gotten so much more in return. I am done!

I've been very happy the last few weeks with the stress removed but today I was having a crappy day and wanted to call to say hi! Instead I came on this board read your post and I am feeling much better, so thank you.


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Registered: 03-05-2003
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 10:57am
Hi Torn...

We really are in similiar situations!!! I am feeling so much better since I have made my decision and I am looking forward to a weekend of fun and clear thinking for once!!

Keep in touch!!


Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 11:22am
Glad to hear you're doing so well Karry. I don't think I'm too far behind...I feel like I have nothing left to say, or feel where HE is concerned. I'll keep lurking though, maybe I can offer insight every now & then to others and I would miss a lot of ladies here as well. Take care!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 8:28pm
Congratulations Karry!

I'm glad that you have so many things going on in your life because (honestly) staying busy and keeping the priorities of YOUR life in the proper and correct perspective will allow you to gain miles! Before long you'll be saying OM? ... OM WHO????

Once I was able to come to the point of where you are now... So often I wondered WHY OH WHY did I *ever* allow myself to believe all his lies and LAME excuses!!!

I must say that I did get a chuckle out of your first time *are you ok* question... I honestly thought that mine was going to have a stroke before he finished! LOL

I do hope you'll keep checking in and posting about life AFTER the end because the more of us that do the more assurance we give others that it truly can BE DONE :)

Take care of yourself,