To Imagineus

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Registered: 07-09-2003
To Imagineus
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 12:16pm
I read your last post, I too am a SOW with children trying to end a 5 year A. I just want to share with you my weekend, which has given me the strength to walk away for ever. My son was in an accident and cracked his skull open and was bleeding to his brain, he was in intensive care for 3 days. And the next few months he will need constant supervision. Sitting in that hospital room with him alone (no support from MM because he was home with his W) was the an eye opener. I am so thankful my baby is ok! But this man who suppose to love me so much, not only was he not there close to me to hold me and tell me it will be ok, he actually got pissed off because when he did call I did not oick up because I was not allowed to have the cell in the hospital room! Then he was pissed because I did not leave to have a drink with him. I will never forgive for that, not will I ever even give him the chance to change, if he was to leave his wofe today, too little too late. I HATE HIM YES it hurts because I am going through so much right now, but nothing is worse than the fear of losing your child, be strong and good luck!
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Registered: 01-25-2005
In reply to: fooled2much
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 12:33pm
Oh fooled I am so sorry to hear about your son, I know how hard it is to sit in that hospital room by yourself. I have been there also, MM was not in the picture at the time and my son was being operated on, I was very alone, so I understand the helplessness you felt. Sometimes it takes a tragedy to see a person in there true light, he is selfish and now you finally know it. Be strong and never forget that you can and will survive without him, your son is in my prayers I also have 2 young sons and if any man treated me as callous as yours did I would hate them also. If you need to vent or talk I will be here, hang in there and best of luck with your son.....
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: fooled2much
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 12:50pm
((((((fooled2much)))))) So scary for you and your son, and horrible that your MM acted the way he did. Definitely an eye opener. I wonder if he is a narcissist like my MM.
They lack empathy..usually my MM was so wrapped up in the drama of his own world that anything happening within my world was either ignored, or he might say something that would show he cared/yet it sounded like it was only because he might have learned what to say to appear compassionate for that moment. But in the end--he is a drama king all on his own. I hope your son will be ok..hugs to him also.
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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: fooled2much
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 1:20pm

{{{{{{{{{{{Fool (gotta find a diff name girl)}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I wish you much comfort, patience, wisdom and encouraging news regarding your Son. What a frightening time. I am sorry reality has to hit double-fold for you but perhaps if one has to garnish something from a tragedy...then you have and I think you should feel proud and strong to RECOGNIZE that you should feel the way you do. Some would use the situation to create a neediness and make that drama more important than the real life drama your son is going through.

Eye opener indeed....I am sorry you had to learn it from such a hard situation. Mine was much much much less important...makes me feel like a baby in comparison...but the same lesson learned.

The lesson here is to be wise and heed the signs as they will save you from the eventual anyway. Take them where you get them.
::::::::::::Hugs to Fool and son:::::stay strong and hopeful. We are so lucky to have the technology we have today.
Lizzie

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Registered: 03-13-2004
In reply to: fooled2much
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 11:01pm

Fool,

this is Max, all will be well , we all know it, u will survive and so will our son, now is the time to spend all your time and energy and love to your son

u take care, show your son all the love he deserves and he will show you a different kind of love ... unconditional love from your son

stick it to MM,

max