infidelity

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Registered: 06-17-2010
infidelity
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 10:22am

Partly because I'm a graphic designer, I love the show Mad Men. If you've never seen it, the setting is a New York ad agency in the early 1960s. The world revolves around men, smoking and drinking. I was born in 1966, so my memory of that time is pretty much the premier of Sesame Street.

In the show, the men cheat on their wives on a regular basis. When the main character's wife decides she's had enough, and finds another man (before they are divorced) he calls her a w**ore.

I'd love our male posters POV's on the subject. But for women, I wonder what it was like back then. I wonder from both sides - the wives that didn't have the option to leave and the "other" women. There were no cell phones. There was no internet. If you transported us back 40 years, where would we get support? How would we heal? I can't imagine my life without the help of all of you right now.

Infidelity has been around since the dawn of time, it's interesting how it's changed, perceived, dealt with, etc.

Bodhi

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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:56am

Bodhi,
Expectations in marriage were different then, and we all know that unmet expectations are the building blocks for resentment! My Gma was from the Old Country, and she told my mother that a woman was lucky if her H got another woman because then he'd leave the W alone. But there were really strict rules about the role of the W and the Mistress... and if that man took his OW to anyplace where the wife went (same restaurant, for example) or if the man spent too much money on the OW, then the W had a right to get upset. But then, as it is today, the OW is a second class citizen in everyone's eyes. Who wants to sign up for that!?

Dee
(I love Mad Men, too!!)

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Registered: 03-08-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 8:52am
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 9:00am

I love looking at all the old props and products. I remember when I was young, we moved and needed a new phone number - my mom requested one with low numbers because of the old rotary dialing!

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Too funny. I'm glad you watch it with your H. I live for Sunday nights too :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 03-08-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 9:30am