Info I did not want

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Info I did not want
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 3:55pm
I met with a friend today for lunch.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 4:39pm

Hi Heart,



It’s been away since I posted to you. How are you besides the yucky trigger of hearing how xAP is doing?



You did great by not asking any questions! I agree with Amber. It might be good to find a way to let your friend know that you don’t need to hear updates.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 6:18pm

Hey E1,



I'm doing pretty well, considering..... My M is still hanging on by a thread, but we are able to have some good days too. We start MC next week

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 6:17am

(((HA7Y))



Oh honey, I'm so sorry you had to hear that, but reading that you doing better, are now learning more about HA7Y, and will be starting MC...is just all good stuff, so thank you for sharing this with us.



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You need to feel proud of yourself, because I most certainly am. Many times circumstances remain stagnant or move at a snail's pace, but having the confidence in ourselves to know that no matter what, we are still going to move forward

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 9:20am

Heart,
Wow. I loved reading this. You really hit some points hard and in only a few lines! Like... the circumstances of your life have not changed but your coping skills are better. Dang, girl. So many of us need to be reminded to celebrate our improved coping skills, instead of wallowing that our RLs are still a challenge post-A. Loved reading that you are owning your confidence and ability to stand on your own two feet, irrespective of the state of your M. My gosh! I'm busting with pride for you after reading that!

Back to your original post.... you did GREAT to not probe for more info with your friend! Kudos!!! Realizing, in the moment and not afterward, that the answers re: X "didn't matter"... YES! Yes!!! Your Jedi training is now second nature! (happy dance going on here)

Now, you just need to train your friend to be a better support to you by never mentioning X again. It sounds like she's not willfully hurtful, just clueless. Lovingly redirect her? Or... you know... smack her off the barstool if she ever does it again. Your choice.;)

I'm very happy and proud for you,
Dee

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:35pm
Thanks all for the encouraging words!!
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Registered: 09-17-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:00pm

Heartache, you and I are kindred spirits.