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| Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:15pm |
Now that i understand his behavior, i know now that his dropping off the face of the earth is about him! Not me. And, most importantly, it's the right thing to do. WE ARE BOTH MARRIED! They're are 4 children involved here. Homes, mortgages, lifestyles, religion.
It's funny. i went back and looked at some of my old posts. I noticed i did not post one time between November - March. That was a period of time when i was starting the serious work about working on my marriage (and getting over my H's A--and xMM had begun to be friends: talking once or twice a week. I see now, that i was somehow satisfied with that limited contact and that we had "been thru a lot together" but were "proud of one another" that we had ended it and were friends. It's only when i thought he was starting a similiar pattern with "Mo" (which i now have reason to believe is not true--i can post about that later) and that i didn't hear from him for weeks at a time, that i suddenly felt "abandoned" again.
The time span between contact used to be hours; then it became days; now it has become weeks. Soon, i believe, it will be months.
I am totally OK with not hearing from him today. One day at a time.
Clarice
Edited 5/5/2004 5:16 pm ET ET by claricews

Yeah, it is the "right" thing to do. Sometimes the best way to know that we're doing the "right" thing is to measure the level of pain associated with it. The more painful, the more likely it's the right thing!
Glad to hear its hurting less today. Love, Mo (hey, I keep seeing references in your posts to some person "Mo" that you thought OMM was involved with. Sorry if my using that nickname brings up bad feelings for you and just for the record, I'm quite sure I'm not THAT Mo!)
Guess it's the word of the day......