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insights from 1 month NC
| Tue, 10-12-2010 - 11:28pm |
As of yesterday, I made 1 month NC. I realize this is nothing in the face of so many tweeners and vets, and particularly nothing given that I intially joined EAS back in July during my first attempt to break off my A. I never made it a full month until now.
It's amazing how much has changed. I had made 2 weeks before I had my d-day.

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ONLY 1 month? Are you kidding me? I'm clawing my way to the end of two weeks! Only one month...geez!
I think you've done great. Thanks for sharing your experiences and insights. I can't bring myself to own up to my H, and I am sure XAP will not out me in any way- he has too much to lose. In fact the smooth way he has covered his tracks indicates that I am probably not his first (or only - ugh) AP. But I agree with you that true intimacy can only be regained with full honesty. Maybe someday I will have your courage. For now, I admire from afar and wish you well.
Bravo to you, Exi!
What an inspiring post!
Wow. One month!
((Exi))
Wow! What a whirlwind month this has been for you, and look how far you have already come. I think you were at the top of the learning curve way before the sh*t hit the fan, so perhaps this is why the realizations are firing at such a rapid pace. I agree with being honest with H, but truthfully, would you have been so open if he hadn't found those emails? Just asking...
It's a very hard lesson to learn that the "Grass is not always greener on the other side, but the greenest where it is watered." As far as your synopsis on XAP goes, you still have work to do in letting thoughts of him NOT MATTER in the grand scheme of things. The truth is,"something unheathy in you (us) was attracted to something unhealthy in him (them)." We would never have crossed the line unless there were issues within us that were being swept under the carpet.
So, my dear, keep on being honest with your H and yourself, and you can't go wrong. One of my most favorite quotes is by Mark Twain:
<, you don't have to remember anything.>>
(((Hugs))),
Dearest Exi82(if you don't mind the nickname!):
CONGRATULATIONS on your
wow, thank you guys SO
Exi,
Congrats to you both on 1 month!! Everyone here is an inspiration to me, and the posts I read are so incredibly good for me and for my journey. I am beginning to see just how effective NC can be! :)
Keep on keeping on...
Hearts <3
One month is wonderful Exi :) You are 1/3 of the way to Tweenerville. You have given yourself the blessing of honesty for the past 30 days and I'm proud of you.
Bodhi
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