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Introduction - I was in an affair
| Thu, 10-14-2010 - 5:04pm |
Hello Everyone - I haven't really navigated around Ivillage and this particular discussion group a whole lot - YET - I was just given this link by a well meaning friend knowing, that I need some support.
I want to get OVER my feelings for a person I was involved in an affair with.
It lasted 3 years - and while I was told - he was going to leave to be with me...(everyone stop laughing!!!!) :)
It turned into this "limbo" thing - where I decided I couldnt live happily.

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I agree!!
And Dee - love your new spooky "bite me" look.
Bodhi, the boring leaf :)
I wish you the best and hope you stick around.
Hey, Dee, no need to photoshop on me - I look like that in real life.
ok, carry on.
PS. I love pink. 1/4 of my wardrobe is in various pink hues....so thanks for the compliment.
HAHHAHA! @TU
Actually I just woke up 6:30pm - after 16hrs of sleep. I guess I needed THAT. :)
Now, You mentioned Jane's 48 hour rule. Where do I find that? Maybe it's in one of my replies and I just haven't seen it yet.
I think I GET this....FIRST LINE OF FOCUS IS GIVING MYSELF THE GIFT OF NO CONTACT. Come hell or high water - as you said TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for myself and THROW ALL IVE GOT into No contact - because THAT will get me out of the fog. Yes?
Thanks for the heads up All of you - about the board being quiet on weekends- I'll know not to take it personally if I get few responses - but the Plan B of reading, reading, reading, will surely get me through any rough patches - and I can always post - or journal to get my thoughts/feelings out of me.
Ps. that random attachment was my testing what attachments look like - so I
Iddy,
Thanks for the hugs! and You do look very pretty in pink! I love pink too. Makes me feel so girly. :)
My goal is now to learn everything I can about NO CONTACT and the effects of an affair. Ive been reading the Mr Unavailable book I ordered from the fabulous blog at www.baggagereclaim.com
My desire to win is very strong and I feel like I put so much effort into him, us and it! Why won't it work????
I used to stalk her FB page obsessively at the end. For 3 years I never did it because I was winning. I had him. But this last year... Oye. She seemed funny and smart, had lots of friends who loved her.. I used to stare at her and wonder is she prettier than me? She's thin and little, I'm tall and curvy.... A constant comparison. Did he love her? He was going to leave her you know....
Anyway.. I think we're on to something with the desire to win and have a positive outcome that equally relates to all time invested. I worked my butt off to make him happy. It hurts to realize he never did the same for me. He did very little to make me happy. What the hell is wrong with me?
Sorry to hi-jack.., something just hit me. I'll be back on Monday. ;)
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