The universe always gives us what we need, it's up to us to recognize and acknowledge it. And you have done that. Yep - they are a married couple doing their thing and you are a married couple doing your thing. Your job is to make your life and your marriage the best it can be. What movie did you see?
That really had to be disturbing. Really am sorry you had to go thru that. I remember seeing exAp in Saks w/wife one day. It was the worst. This was the first one, the one my dumb self decided to knowingly enter into.
I'm really happy to hear your resolve is stronger and that the fog is behind you:) It was your prayer of thanks that really stood out to me, I could feel your gratitude and it reminded me to do that as well more often;)
Reality bites, Alice. Too bad it took the "Real McCoy" to take a chunk out of you. I sometimes wonder if you even read the posts on here unless they are in your own threads...I can't count how many times people have written that APs say whatever they need to say about their supposely dead marriages, how they live like brother and sister, how they are going to leave when the kids get older, how their W's are too busy for them or are unaffectionate, how their OW/OM makes them feel alive again, is their soul mate, is the woman/man of their dreams....blah, blah, blah....whateve it takes to get some action...
9 times out of 10 (and that may be too low), there is nothing wrong with their marriages. They are just bored, in need of a little excitement, are hungry for a piece of chocolate, while, or yellow cake and LIE through their mouth full of cavities so they can woo, lure, and hope to get a little somethin, somethin on the side. As women, we eventually want to be more than a girty little secret.....so we start pressuring them for more... And this is when things start going down the tubes. Out comes little pieces of the truth that the W ain't so bad and the M is okay <>. and tell me how many of you M gals were actually going to "leave" your H's if your MM left his W? Seriously, every day you read a post that they had no intention of ever leaving their "not so bad" H/M. So, who the heck are we to get all bugger eyed when we actually SEE our XMM/XAP with their W or another woman?
Anyway, if seeing them together got your mojo working, then so be it. Whatever it takes. Let's hope this is not followed by a D-day. Now THAT would be a lot more than just a slap from the Universe, wouldn't your agree?
PS - and please, no more threads about missing your Xmm, okay? They are painful and counterproductive to many posters here. I received several emails about this...and I have enough to do on this board.
Alice -
The universe always gives us what we need, it's up to us to recognize and acknowledge it. And you have done that. Yep - they are a married couple doing their thing and you are a married couple doing your thing. Your job is to make your life and your marriage the best it can be. What movie did you see?
Bodhi
Morning Alice,
That really had to be disturbing. Really am sorry you had to go thru that. I remember seeing exAp in Saks w/wife one day. It was the worst. This was the first one, the one my dumb self decided to knowingly enter into.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
I'm really happy to hear your resolve is stronger and that the fog is behind you:) It was your prayer of thanks that really stood out to me, I could feel your gratitude and it reminded me to do that as well more often;)
Alice,
God bless God!
Reality bites, Alice. Too bad it took the "Real McCoy" to take a chunk out of you. I sometimes wonder if you even read the posts on here unless they are in your own threads...I can't count how many times people have written that APs say whatever they need to say about their supposely dead marriages, how they live like brother and sister, how they are going to leave when the kids get older, how their W's are too busy for them or are unaffectionate, how their OW/OM makes them feel alive again, is their soul mate, is the woman/man of their dreams....blah, blah, blah....whateve it takes to get some action...
9 times out of 10 (and that may be too low), there is nothing wrong with their marriages. They are just bored, in need of a little excitement, are hungry for a piece of chocolate, while, or yellow cake and LIE through their mouth full of cavities so they can woo, lure, and hope to get a little somethin, somethin on the side. As women, we eventually want to be more than a girty little secret.....so we start pressuring them for more... And this is when things start going down the tubes. Out comes little pieces of the truth that the W ain't so bad and the M is okay <>. and tell me how many of you M gals were actually going to "leave" your H's if your MM left his W? Seriously, every day you read a post that they had no intention of ever leaving their "not so bad" H/M. So, who the heck are we to get all bugger eyed when we actually SEE our XMM/XAP with their W or another woman?
Anyway, if seeing them together got your mojo working, then so be it. Whatever it takes. Let's hope this is not followed by a D-day. Now THAT would be a lot more than just a slap from the Universe, wouldn't your agree?
PS - and please, no more threads about missing your Xmm, okay? They are painful and counterproductive to many posters here. I received several emails about this...and I have enough to do on this board.
Just saying,
Alice,
I appreciate your honesty.