Isn't this contradictory?
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Isn't this contradictory?
| Fri, 03-26-2010 - 5:54pm |
We all know that NC is the way to go. I have personally found that when I am NC - I think about him less vs when I am LC with him.I don't think about him much when I don't have any contact or see him.

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Dear kmg6,
I was so shocked recently to read that physical contact creates chemicals that make you long for someone....No wonder we get addicted....just like all other drugs or alcohol, just these chemicals are produced by our own bodies.
Gal-
Going NC is not a guarantee that the "work" to address the underlaying reasons for the A are addressed and concurred, ykwim? Going NC and just be a 'holding stage'. Reaching indifference can be just that one has fallen out of infatuation/love/lust with AP, and nothing more. The REAL issues of self improvement and healing might not have been addressed; this leaves a person vulnerable to another A, or perhaps even going back to xAP, if one is _that_ self destructive that an A, even with a totally 'icky' partner, fulfills that damaging purpose.
Ok, I have not had enough coffee yet to express myself well. I hope you get what I'm saying. ha.
xoxo
Dee
Ah, the chemicals.