It is finally over....for real

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Registered: 08-23-2007
It is finally over....for real
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Thu, 11-26-2009 - 2:49pm

 

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Registered: 11-22-2007
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 3:37pm

It is sad when you come to the realization that you aren't friends.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 5:28pm

Friends usually have your best interests in mind and are there for you when going gets tough. Those guys are all about themselves, they just don't give a damn about your bad days/needing them/wanting to hear from them/rely on support from them. So as soon as you won't play by their rules (i.e. available whenever they feel like playing and having fun), they usually out of the picture very quickly. Fight for you? Please!

My xAP didn't wish me Happy Thanksgiving today, although he wanted to be "friends" so badly. Guess what? My real friends didn't forget about me...and I am totally numb to whatever this man does. Nothing he can possibly do to disappoint or upset me more that he has in the past - I have no tears left for him, nothing, and finally enjoying this silence. He really should be thankful to still have his loving and caring wife which puts up with his crap - I really had no patience for his immaturity and self-centeredness, and I am, in turn, thankful for getting rid of him because he was adding nothing to my life.

I hope you ladies have a great Thanksgiving. Appreciate everything you have - caring husbands, loving kids, your good fortune. Life is too short to waste it on someone who cannot and will not appreciate you for a great woman that you are.

Dixi!:)

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 07-05-2008
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 11:05pm
I hate to say this...but I waited all day for him to text just to say Happy Thanksgiving and that text never came. I almost texted to him but I was strong and did not. I am proud that I didn't. He is not worth the time in my head either at this point.
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Registered: 08-23-2007
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 12:45am

I could have written your post.

 

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Registered: 08-23-2007
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 12:52am

Life is definatley too short to waste on wanting a friendship with my xMM. All those years wasted for absolutely nothing.


Today was tough at times as I started to feel bad that I just hit him with a ton of bricks when I said all of this is over. But

 

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Registered: 08-23-2007
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 12:58am

I never understood how difficult it is to send someone a text. It is so impersonal to send one but easy and convienent. It is so hurtful to realize that we mean so little to these men that they cannot even do that for us. Just pathetic what we are willing to put up with. Things we would never put up with from anyone else. I am always amazed by the similarites in these men....and in us. We are usually very strong, confident women except when we have to deal with these men....just weird to me.


Don't worry about not hearing from him on Thanksgiving. Take no hearing from him as his gift to you. It helped you realize who he really is. I am sure that he looks pretty bad in your eyes right now.

At-Peace

 

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 7:32pm
Good for you...grats on staying strong! As to me, I won't text xMM even at gunpoint. It's bad enough I have to see him at work and put up with his endless fishing.
**Bloodied but unbowed**