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| Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:23pm |
I have been in a relationship with a MM for 7 1/2 long, horrible years. I have been fooling myself for so long. Same thing, over and over and over. "I'll take care of things." "I need you." "I can't live without you." Blah blah blah. Well, I'm hoping that I have finally reached the point where I have really had enough.
Quick background: I'm single, he's married. His kids are grown, out of the house. He has no relationship to speak of with the wife. He's quite miserable, but so far is willing to stay because of the kids.
I was told yesterday that he's taking the next two weeks off of work, leaving with the wife and one of his kids to spend some time with his family out of state.
Right now I'm still numb. We talked briefly this afternoon - I have no idea when he's leaving. My cell phone is off for the night, but I know I'll need help in the next few weeks to get this man out of my life.
I want and deserve a REAL relationship. Any thoughts and words would be appreciated!

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Thank you everyone - I just read through the "enough is enough" thread that Iddy recommended - holy cow. I have felt every single entry.
I am scared. Scared to find out I didn't really matter. Scared to find out that the past 7 1/2 years were a huge waste of everything. Scared to admit that I was so wrong about him. I left my marriage for him. I did the right thing and admitted that I was unhappy and left. Everything happens for a reason right? So maybe I met him so that I would stop being complacent in my marriage and leave?
I'm scared that I will be alone, as much as I have told myself that this is a MILLION times worse than being alone.
Bodhi
Hey Bodhi
I too am single and I also invested 31/2 years to XMM. It was a poor investment to say the least! I am a young woman with dreams of having my own family some day! In order to get you (my) life back NC is the only way to go!!!! We need to look forward and like iddy had mentioned open those gates to hell so we can get out! It will be ridiculously hard. But ask yourself this... how was it being active in the A. For me it was "hell". At least with NC iotion there is a happy ending as to staying in A it will continue its cycle. Yes we all know that cycle all too well! Bottom line really is valuing our own self worth and living a whole life rather than half! Iddy I enjoyed your post to this thread! bodhi you can do it! I believe that you can! Hang in there!
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