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| Thu, 10-14-2004 - 5:34pm |
There's this guy at work who I've been flirting with for the past few months. We haven't done ANYTHING, but have gotten sooooooo close. It's getting really dangerous now.
I'm joyfully married with 2 wonderful kids and am hot for this guy (12 years my junior no less) for entirely sexual reasons. He is so dang hot and all the girls in the office fawn over him. He's said he flirts with everybody, it's fun, and nothing's going to happen; I shouldn't feel guilty. But yesterday after I saw him at the gym he said, "Dammit, let's just f&%) and get it over with. I'll deal with the consequences later." Yeah, sure, but he's single and has nothing to lose; I have EVERYTHING to lose. It's time to end it now.
I may need your shoulders tomorrow.
Too bad there's no emoticon for "relieved."

You are stopping things before you cross the line. I sure wish I had. My situation was very similar- work together, flirted "harmlessly", etc. It got dangerous and very obvious he was serious and I started to walk away but I didn't. I am also married, but I got caught up and drunk with excitement and here I am 6 months later trying to clean up the mess I've made of myself.
You are VERY smart to nip this think in the bud. It's nice to flirt and get attention, but crossing that line was my worst mistake ever. It was SO not worth it!
So CONGRATULATIONS! I'm here for you! :)
Lily
If only I had been as smart as you are right now. Good for you for for recognizing when really bad things are about to happen.
My XMM was after me for awhile, but I laughed him off for awhile. My H and I knew him and his W socially (still do sort of). So when he would see me at parties (with W) or at business meetings during the day (without W) he was after me. Finally I gave in -- for all the same reasons everyone else does. How I wish I had done what you are doing.
Please stay the course here, Maiden. It is simply not worth the headaches, hassles, and heartaches.
Meg
What an arrogant jerk. He may look good, but he has the brains of a pea pod. He'll deal with consequences tomorrow? Obviously there was no hint of consideration for how YOU would deal with the consequences. And believe me, you would have ended up being just another notch on his "Yeah baby, another one bites the dust" belt.
You're right. He's single and you're not. How did you respond to this abrasive gester?
Listen, I am sure you are completely flattered that this moronic hunk flirts with you, but sweetie, didn't you say he does that with everyone? He's on a mission. He's out to rack up points. You are wise in dodging this lethal bullet because guys like this enjoy destroying someone's life.
My advice would be to avoid him like the plague. If you read these boards you will see that innocent flirting has a way of becoming the beginning of the end, even for those who think they would NEVER cross the line.
~True~
You listen to these women they know what there talking about.
You need to get professional at your work place (no flirting no more buddy buddy) and keep it that way from now one or you may learn the hard way a new definition of PAIN, not just your PAIN but the PAIN you will inflict on your FAMILY, when a parent cheats the whole family pays for it, you start stealing the love and attention away from your kids and spouse and giving to some man that is not worth the sweat off you husbands butt.
I have to comment about the great amount of RESPECT he showed you by making that dirty remark to you, total respect yes indeed, a real charmer there, if you F#$K him he would blab it all over that gym and your work place to pump up his already big EGO even more.
I know this sounds harsh but it just bugs me to no end when women allow men to disrespect them like that and are even flattered by these jerks.
JMHO
Free
How likely was Faramir to utter the phrase, "Dammit, let's just f&%) and get it over with. I'll deal with the consequences later,"?!
Kick Grima Wormtongue to the curb and remember the Lord of your very Own Ring right there at home.
Posie (in Galadriel mode lol)
Posie--I was trying to come up with a clever way to reply to this, in the manner with which it deserved. You did a splendid job :-)
Meg
Yes, Grima's words are indeed poison and he does haunt her steps.
So I told him flat out to keep his forked tongue behind his teeth, and I would not sleep with him. Ever.
I'm happy with "The One Ring" I have, and it's a good one. Hannon le.
Thanks to all of you for your input and your support. Best of luck to all.