It is not hot and steamy
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It is not hot and steamy
| Sun, 01-18-2004 - 8:36pm |
Tell me. If the sexual relationship that you have with your spouse is never hot and steamy and never has been, would that be okay with you? I know that intimacy can ebb and flow in relationships, but shouldn't your spouse be the one that can still make you tingle all over? I ask this question because I never had that with my H. Since then, I have had some tell me that I was wrong to expect that. Now, I am starting to question myself. Can't there be a lot of chemistry still there between a husband and a wife, even years into a marriage?
Lostit
Edited 3/16/2004 11:41 am ET ET by lostlt

Lostit
~hp
You know, we may feel differently in 10+ years. However, isn't that the point? We are still young and should want the passion during these years. In the last stages of life, we might be okay without it. But, God willing, we still have so many years left. It would be a shame for us to settle.
Lostit
Sorry, but I disagree with those that said you were wrong to expect it. IMO, if 2 people don't have the chemistry it takes to click....they should not marry. I wish I would have realized THIS before I said I do! Dumb me thought chemistry was something that would just happen and grow down the years of married life!
I wish my husband would engage in more foreplay, but he doesn't, although he knows he should and he sometimes apologises for neglecting me in that way. I have stopped asking, instead I hint about it once in a while, in the nicest way possible.
I've become jaded, I now believe that the best orgasms are the ones I give myself.... but that doesn't change my opinion that it is perfectly alright to expect a reasonably good sex life from your spouse. Why do you ask?
My affair with my xOM made me realise that I too had sexual needs, and I loved the way he awakened me sexually.
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