it is over , in need of support
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it is over , in need of support
| Wed, 01-05-2005 - 7:30pm |
I was involved in a affair with a man 6 years younger than me , it lasted for almost 2 years and I worked with him. The hardest part is thinking about all the wonderful things he said to me , Like how much he loved me and how he wanted me in his life forever...... Well reality hit when he up and moved to Texas this last month when he realized the cost of living is cheaper and his W would not have to work , but stay at home with the kids, 2 which are his and the oldest from a previous relationship.
I am confused , at the same time I am waiting for him to get in touch, and at the same time I do not want to hear from him.
How dare he just get up and leave me . The thing is , AFTER he purchased a home in Texas he said to me " If only you would have left your husband first , I would have been right behind you " He also said " if you would have told me not to leave after I told you I was moving , I would not have left, but you never did . I know why you did not , because you are NOT selfish ,, but sometimes I wich you were ! " It is like he is blaming me . I have come to realize if all his lies were true , he would have never left like that . He did it to better his wifes life. She has always been lazy and spoiled, from what he said. What did I get ? false feelings and lies that still continue to break my heart. Is there any gals who would like to meet a friend for lunch or a movie ? i am in the Manhattan Beach area of Southern California ! How could I have been so foolish ???????
I am confused , at the same time I am waiting for him to get in touch, and at the same time I do not want to hear from him.
How dare he just get up and leave me . The thing is , AFTER he purchased a home in Texas he said to me " If only you would have left your husband first , I would have been right behind you " He also said " if you would have told me not to leave after I told you I was moving , I would not have left, but you never did . I know why you did not , because you are NOT selfish ,, but sometimes I wich you were ! " It is like he is blaming me . I have come to realize if all his lies were true , he would have never left like that . He did it to better his wifes life. She has always been lazy and spoiled, from what he said. What did I get ? false feelings and lies that still continue to break my heart. Is there any gals who would like to meet a friend for lunch or a movie ? i am in the Manhattan Beach area of Southern California ! How could I have been so foolish ???????

RCD
"How could I have been so foolish" , Now theres a question we all would like answered.
You can blame yourself for your actions if you desire to but his EXCUSES were just that and nothing more.
Forget him he was a mistake we have all had one or two just like him, focus on your real relationship with your husband and see what can be done with that.
The best revenge is to get over him quickly and move on to enjoy your life.
Free
Free,
Thank you so much for your response. The last line really made me feel better. I can tell you that since he left a little over a week ago, my relationship with my husband has been better. I think because I am finally focusing on H and have realized that this is the man that truly loves me . He has stuck with me for better and the WORST ! It hurt when MM left and sometimes it feels so horrible when I have to face the fact that he never felt like I did.
At the same time , I think this was GOD intervening, ending this thing that I was not capable of, because over all I was more miserable with MM than happy for the last 6 months or more. IT was a combination of guilt, and jealousy over MM and the time he could not give me but his wife. I was drinking more, more depressed than ever , short tempered with my family, everything a miserable person feels.
I feel a bit empowered over my life again now that he is gone...but every other moment , it creeps up in my mind, how could MM just move on like that , when he said so many wonderful things about me and the way I made him feel ,,,, I know I was just a fool. I gave him the power to bring me happiness, when now I know that I am the first one who can bring me happiness first and foremost. NEVER AGAIN ! and I also have to remember should he contact me in the future , not to respond !!! He used me when I was good for him and then he dumped me when it was good for him. I am not going to allow him to use me when the wife makes him mad.