Is it really ever over?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2010
Is it really ever over?
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 4:59pm
I just have a question. Is it really ever over. I have read over and over on this site and others about an XAP trying to make contact again. This causes me to wonder if it is ever really over? Is it the men, is it the women, is it the connection? I don't know. How many have really ended the first time around. Do we get so far out from the feelings that we forget how crappy we felt when it ended the first time and just go right back in? I have only been in one and so far (5 weeks NC) have only ended it once. I just am baffled at the whole thing....
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 4:56pm

I knew the EA had to end, but he had been my best friend for so long that I couldn't stand the thought of going completely NC at first.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 6:54pm

I was just re-reading your post and decided I had not really answered your question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 6:36am

Thank you so much for your thoughtful replies, and they make perfect sense.


RP

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 8:29am

Green -


Can I just say - I could have written your post?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:07pm

The answer is...yes.


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:17pm

Short and sweet and straight to the point, Victory. Right on.

It takes two to tango, but only one to end it. and, as I said before, if the other person stays out on the dance floor gyrating away all by him/herself.... well, what a dorkwad.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:19pm

greeneyed...good for you for cutting off all forms of communication.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 3:34pm
That is a really good way to put it...your authentic soul is smothered.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 3:39pm
Thanks...I saw the same things when I opened my eyes to what was really happening.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2009
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 4:42pm

what a great question.